My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 months, and until 4 days ago I felt the relationship was steady but this weekend we got into a pretty big fight. A little backstory real quick. She has 2 kids, ages 8 and 10 from another relationship, and we are both close in age, her being 4 months older than me. I have no kids and this is my first relationship with children involved as I do not have children of my own. When we first got together I had a well paying job as a part of the management team for a fortune 200 company. About 2 months into our relationship she asked me to move in with her in her apartment. I did and all was well until about 4 months ago. She became distant and withdrawn, and anything I did, no matter good or bad, completely annoyed her. She ended up going to the doctor and finding out she had a bad thyroid and depression. She has been taking the medication regularly since then. Well life throws a curveball 3 weeks ago and I was fired from my job. I was the main income earner in the home, as she works part time. We had our fights throughout our relationship but I became bitter and felt as though I was failing since I was not able to support her and the children. I became angry and we started arguing over petty things, like who was doing the dishwasher or what not. It continually became worse where this past weekend we got into our big fight. I let my anger overcome and control me and I threw things. Not at her nor near her. I threw my wallet against the closet wall. I was asked to leave the apartment that night for a cool off night away. I was still angry and hurt at being asked to leave the next day that I didn’t see how much I frightened her. I didn’t apologize for my actions, and then asked her to talk about us after she got off. She said she did not want to, but eventually I got my way. I tried to see where we were, but she wasn’t on the same page. I wanted to work on us to try to save what we had, but she said she wanted a break. I was hard headed and stubborn and said that if we were done then we were done, so she ended it. I was hurt and angry, and she left to her moms while I tried to load my things. I ended up just leaving that night to stay at my moms. She packed my stuff and I went to get it the day after this. I don’t know where her feelings are or if she has any left for me. When I was getting my things I stayed very calm and didn’t get angry. I told her that I wasn’t going to give up on us, but at this point I don’t know if she will even give me a second chance. I have had time to think how we got to this point and I now see how I became and caused most of this. I have accepted my actions and that this is the consequence of those actions. I am not looking to move back in, not right now, but I would like to see about working and building what we had together back up. Am I just a hopeless romantic trying to win the princess, or do you all feel I should just cut my losses and move on?
