please advice me on this emotional question

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friends I m from india. when i had completed my 12th i took admission to diploma. i have one cousin that is “son of my mothers sisters”. they lives in other city , we are both of the same age. he had also completed 12th same year. so our relatives decided to take our admissions for diploma in computer science. so me and him both took admission at same college. we were in same class. I was living in their home because our college in their city. now i come straight to my problem. I am in heavy depression. because i dont like my cousin. he always makes my fun. when i start doing something he laught at me and says something which really irritates me. but i cant say anything to him because then he becomes sad which i dont like. but he constantely repeat it with me and everyone. even i told him that do not do this with me and others , but he never listens , and tell others about me that i have changed , i m not good to our common friends. i really dont like this but i still living like him to avoid conflict.

Category: asked March 25, 2014

2 Answers

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Hey amol, first of all congrats on your admission! In regards to your cousin, have you tried sitting down with him and talking about what he's is doing to you and how that makes you feel? I understand you do not want to start conflict since you are living together but resolutions happen when you discuss openly the problem at hand. I understand you don't want to upset him but if this problem is consistent you need to tell him about it. Try talking with him and see if that sorts out the issue. Also if the problem doesn't stop just try to ignore his remarks. Try to make yourself happy and don't let him ruin you and put you further into depression. Talk with your friends about this matter as well so they can understand what your cousin is doing.
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I agree Amol, the best thing you can do is to sit down alone with your cousin and tell him how the things he says make you feel. Tell him that when he says these things that it makes you sad, and that you wish to get along better with him. At a college age you should both be able to handle this conversation. If he continues to be mean to you after talking to him then you should do your best to ignore his remarks - if he is too immature to respect your feelings, then it's not worth your time to worry about what he thinks of the things you like. Be proud of who you are!