Obsessed with a seemingly perfect girl

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I can’t stop thinking / for months now, about a girl my boyfriend fancied in the past, whom I met and who seems to me absolutely perfect. She is gorgeous, sweet as can be, generally adored by all who know her, and an extremely successful artist.
And I just can’t stop comparing myself with her, and I don’t think a single day goes by that I don’t think of how perfect and loved and happy she seems and how opposite I feel about myself.

The thing that I find the most difficult is that she is in the same line of art/work as me, and ridiculously successful while I struggle for recognition. And I am terribly jealous.

And now I feel bad as well, every single day that I think about this. And ashamed. But I really don’t know how to stop it.

Category: Tags: asked May 4, 2013

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The first thing coming to my mind when I read this is: You're comparing your insides to someone else's outsides. While she may seem put together, better, or whatever else you want to call her but you have no idea how she feels or she actually is on the insides. You are an amazing person with a lot to offer the world. And, the best ways that you can help the world is to find yourself a way to express your individuality. What makes you unique? Set yourself apart from the others and you'll know why there is no reason to be jealous.