New Girl?

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For the past two years, i’ve lived with mainly guys. I always got on better with guys anyway so I found it easy to get on with them, there were a lot of us, hardly any girls at that. The year after that it moved down to a few of us, me and a few guys, all great.

He is amazing, we always got on so well, we joked around and had our flirty moments for the past couple of years so I grew attached to him. After being sexually assaulted too, for me trusting or even becoming close with a male was rare, I avoided most of my friends and felt so uncomfortable around them 24/7, but this one guy… he broke down my wall of defence with a single smile.

We use to talk about relationships too, how he was in one and was always asking ‘so have you found your man yet?’ I always replied no, of course I hadn’t, I’m nothing special compared to all the girls in the clubs we head out too most nights, even drunk we flirt but nothing ever happens.. When we argue my stomach feels like it’s in my throat and I can’t stand it.

I guess this is where I confess, I can’t stop thinking about one of my flat mates, I seriously struggle to manage myself around him, I get shy easily. Now though, both of us are single and I am not willing to make a move, i’m scared of what this friendship may cost us. Plus he has no idea of my feelings towards him at all. I just need to get over this whole idea of liking/ admiring him. However I feel like i’m acting like some silly teenager asking out a prom date…. We are adults here, nearly hitting 30 and what happens? This.

It really is the real life version of New Girl.

Category: Tags: asked May 28, 2013

3 Answers

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whos that girll~ Its Jess!Well, I guess there is two paths down this road for you:1. Ask him how he feels, there might be a connection there (just like in the show) it's risky but it might work out for the both of you, however living in each others pockets might become stressful and ruin it which is a downer on the whole thing but if he likes you then eh it could work out..or2. Leave it, soon someone will come and fly you away from sopping over a flatmate, (must be crowed if theres a few of you in one flat?!) Maybe friends should stay friends if they live together and are part of the same friends group really. It's a win or loose situation which is the scary part of this for you. And you can't really ask the other house mates I guess? They would probably tell each other... boys and all eh.cue cheesy line: follow what your heart says, however actions always have a reaction, just think carefully before you take the first step :)
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If you desire this person in a relationship define it and write it down on paper. Now meditate on this relationsip and think strongly, that this relationship has happened and it is as exactly as you desired it. Capture the feelings you would have if he is your perfect soul mate. When you express those positive feelings you will attract the same feeling from him. Give it time and connect with the feeling. Allow the feelings into your experience do not resist. Allow a buffer of time. You will get your soulmate.If you did not get a soul to soul connection with him in your meditation he was not your soul mate.A more quicker way is to boldly tell him your desires and ask him to respond truthfully. You will get your answer.
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Show him this post. Honestly, it's well worded and straight forward. If he doesn't feel exactly the same then you can save it for later by continuing to be kind to him. Don't obsess about him, but simply let him know that you appreciate his friendship and would love to be there for him. I think this post would be more than enough to communicate your message clearly and romantically.