Nerd Problems

This is going to be the weirdest question that any of you have ever read but I need help. I’m 21 years old, I’m in college, I’m a pretty normal person, I just looooove anime and everything related! I am a total fangirl for most anime boys – that’s not hard for me to say, considering I know there are tons of others with obsessions and love just like me, but anyway… sometimes I wonder if I take it too far? Sometimes I’m scared that I won’t actually meet a guy that I think is so freaking adorable and sexy like some of these FAKE PEOPLE. ugh. Right now, I’m obsessed with Homestuck (for those of you who know what that is, you’re awesome) and I am in love with Cronus! Sometimes I wonder, “Am I ever going to meet a guy that makes me laugh and feel like Cronus does?” Yeah, that sounds so weird, probably beyond weird and it’s actually really hard to type this right now but I just need to vent a little.

Category: Dating & Relationships Tags: #lonely #weird #ffeelings asked July 7, 2014

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nahtzee

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The fact that you worry about this means that you will find someone. It just takes time. We can't all kiss a frog that turns into a prince the first time out. Give it some time and give some boys a try.

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Swifting

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There are plenty of Otakus in colleges, in mine there's even an Anime Club thingy, and it's the first time I had seen one ever lol I don't know about yours, but there might be one too, you could join it and I'm sure there's plenty of guys there too.

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DJ Not Nice

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I don't think there's anything intrinsically wrong with anime and all that. However, begging your pardon, I do get the impression that you might be taking it a little too seriously. Nothing wrong with having hobbies, but it's important that you don't end up with it defining you as a person.

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Mr. Milquetoast

I hang out with a group of assorted nerds at school. Not one specific fandom but we have at least one of each. As a former Otaku I think you will be fine romantically. There are plenty of us and you sound like a fun person to be around. but I do have one question. Why don't you try dating someone who also likes homestuck so you can enjoy it together? what I mean is that the two shouldn't have to compete if you can find someone who can enjoy it with you.

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Levi-UR

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The other Listeners covered your answer pretty well, so the only thing I will add is that your question doesn't rank in the top 50 strangest questions on BlahTherapy. You fall into a Fandom Romance Woe category, not at all uncommon.

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Humanist Hope

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Having crushes on fake people is normal, we all like to put ourselves in fantasies, I feel its no different than people having crushes on celebrities, having a big crush on a character however probably will not affect any relationships you have, many people who are in a relationship do have fantasy crushes so do not worry, I used to be in a relationship while having homestuck crushes, didn't affect it one bit, though it did sadly end it was not related to my crushes in anyway at all, plus everyone is different so you may have relationships that end quickly and some that wont, its really just who you connect with. I agree with everyone else though, find someone who likes homestuck or with similar interests, that's a good start :)
plus high five for homestuck

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Becky

Well they say that there's someone out there for everyone. Maybe it's true and maybe it isn't but I can tell you that there so many guys out there are into the exact same sorts of things as you are, you just haven't met any of them yet. You're only 21, that's really young! At the moment you're in the prime of your life, you've got so much to look forward to in the future just because you haven't met a guy that loves you for who you are now, doesn't mean that you'll never meet him at all! I'm a nerd so I know exactly how you feel, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm 19 but I'm worried because if it happens then it happens I'm sure one day I'll meet someone that truly loves me and appreciates who I am, I guess I just haven't met that person yet. Everything will be fine trust me, just be yourself, live life and things will work out. =)

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Evergreen

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I would not worry about it at all :) There is nothing wrong with who you are and someday you will find someone who makes you laugh and smile like never before.

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Kimy