I’ll try to keep the story short:
A few years back I had a boyfriend. We had a good relationship and I was just about to meet some of his friends for the first time. One of them was a girl, who was very nice to me and just really fun to hang out with. I really liked her and we started texting each other a lot.
We talked about random things, but one thing that almost always came into the conversation was my bf. How everything was working out between us and stuff. She said I could tell her anything and she’d do her best to help me out if there was any problems. Which I appreciated (I might add that I was young and naive at the time).
But as time passed, I realized that something was going on between them. He said they were just “best friends” but yeah… I could tell that wasn’t the case. She was without a doubt in love with him.
I later found out from my bf that they once had a relationship and that he knew that she still had feelings for him. But that I shouldn’t worry about it and then told me bunch of weird/sick stuff about her to explain why.
But I actually got really mad. Because I started to think that she was just using me to get information about his life and how to be more like the girl he wanted.
I confronted her about it (in fury), being very very mean to her and mentioning everything weird that my bf had told me about her and that I thought she was disgusting, sick in the head and so on. She, of course, freaked out.And we never spoke again.
Though, I felt really bad after what I said. (And even more so, when months later, I found out that he was the culprit. Not her.)
So anyway. This year I found a random blog that I really liked and started to read it everyday since the girl behind it experienced a lot of things that I did. Depression, self harm and all that. The more I read, the more I felt a connection to the writer and found out that we had SO MUCH in common. I really felt that I wanted to get to know her more so I commented her posts with a link to my own blog. After that she started commenting a lot on my posts, saying that she felt the same way and everything. I felt like we could be great friends, and we even lived in the same city.
But the thing is… I RECENTLY FOUND OUT THIS IS THE EXACT GIRL I HAD THE FIGHT WITH YEARS BACK! A very odd coincidence I know but I assure you it’s true (I’ve seen pics of her on the blog and everything, and also her connected facebook. Everything matches!).
By now, I’ve changed my mind about her completely. Now that I know the real truth about her and her past. And I still feel the strong connection to her even though the kinda shocking reveal…
She, however, has no idea that it’s me. She just knows that we’re very much alike and live in the same city. She seems super excited to “get to know me more” and have tried to get to meet me IRL several times! Today she even invited me to a personal New Years Eve party (which I actually want to go to since I don’t have anything else planned)…!
So… What should I do??? Any thoughts how to handle the situation the best way possible? Anything would help!