My sister was really rude to me yesterday, should I still tell her happy birthday today?

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My sister and I got in a huge fight yesterday. It began when I text to ask her to take a picture with me so I could post a ten year difference thing on instagram. She was rude to me and said no not today, and I asked her when she would be available tomorrow to take it? and she freaked out and said that I was pressuring her and annoying her. So then I flipped out and told her I was trying to do something nice for her and she was like “whatever”. So then I told her “To think I was going to buy you something nice, you don’t deserve a penny”.
After she came home she came by my room to say “Hi” but I ignored her. Today is her birthday and i’m debating what to do. My sister and mom posted something for her on facebook and instagram. l have remained silent. It really hurt when she called me “annoying” and dismissed my effort to be nice, especially when it was her idea to take the picture a week ago. There is a ten year difference between us and she is in middle school. I know I should be the bigger person but I do not take drama or rudeness from anyone irregardless of age.
Should I just text her happy birthday?Should I not do anything at all?

Category: Tags: asked January 28, 2014

6 Answers

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Of course you should. Don't let something so trivial be the potential start of a relationship destroying fight. She's your sister. In the end, you love each other, even if you fight, and I know deep down you still want her to have a good birthday. Also, you would be the bigger (and more mature) person by doing so. Just saying.
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Don't just text her happy birthday, wish her a happy birthday in person! You're 10 years older, which probably makes you something like 20. I'm actually 10.5 years older than my youngest sister and she can be a real pain at times, but at her age, you can't take anything that happens seriously. Bury the hatchet, it's her birthday, be happy for her and make it a fun day! Don't focus on the picture too much, your age difference will be 10 years any day of the year. Good luck :D
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Read what you did, you sound like an unpleasant person. Someone doesn't want to take a picture for instagram, so you flip out on them? Usually the proper way to react when someone calls you annoying is to assess the situation and correct yourself, not to pout and throw a tantrum.

Apologize and get over it.
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its been her birthday all today and you haven't said happy birthday? i think you should say "happy birthday" and be the bigger person. it is her birthday after all dont let arguments come in the way of that yes she probably come across as a little spiteful and disrespectful but for today be nice and tomorrow sort your "sister troubles" out
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I didn't even read past the title of this, I will be honest...but say happy birthday. You have to step above poor behavior and be the bigger person.
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I feel like you should tell her Happy Birthday. I understand that you are upset with her, however, being an outsider I see both sides of the situation.I understand that you were trying to do something nice for her, and maybe she was just having a bad day yesterday, so she reacted in a way that didn't please you. Maybe she didn't feel well, or just wasn't in the mood to take the picture. Who knows what could have been going on with her.I also see her point of view, that maybe she didn't realize she was upsetting you.I think the best thing to do at this point is to honestly sit down and think about the situation, because if you can look at it from a new perspective you might understand how minor this "huge" fight was.Siblings fight all the time. And if you two are anything like me and my 3 younger siblings, it is over the smallest things. And once I take the time to look back and realize what we fought over, I understand that it could have been easily resolved if we just talked rationally to each other instead of taking things out of proportion.So sit down and have a talk with your sister. Apologize for how you acted. Tell her happy birthday, and move on!