So I kind of have a weird situation… I have been working my first job for about 5 months now in fast food and recently started this kind of secret relationship with one of my managers. For a while I’ve had a small crush on him, although we never really talked to each other much and physically he’s not really my type… though I think his body is sexy. I’m also extremely shy and nervous about getting involved on an emotional level with a guy, so I’ve pretty much been only wanting to sleep with him for a while without emotion connection (though right now I’m a virgin). I’ve never told him this and don’t plan to.
About a week ago he asked another coworker to get my number for him since apparently he’s been trying to talk to me more but opportunities to do so was slim. So I gave her my number and she passed it onto him and we began texting to each other and I agreed to meet with him for coffee. Since then, we’ve met up in secret three times (and counting) and text each other every day.
The first two times we saw each other it was pretty friendly and at first I thought that was all he wanted… to be better friends with me. But then, the third time we met up, he confessed his feelings for me, saying he really liked my personality and attractiveness, and wanted to date me.
He’s a really nice guy and respects me as a person (I told him I was nervous about being in a relationship with someone and he understood and said he wouldn’t ever touch me without my permission). He’s seven years older than me and also single. His texts have gotten really sweet and it’s obvious now that he likes me quite a bit… but I don’t know if we really connect well. I’m having a hard time opening up with him and whenever we see each other we’ll have some awkward silences.
In a couple months he’s going to step down from his manager position
(not solely because of me; it stresses him out a lot). I don’t know if I should continue to see him and give the relationship a shot… and if not, I don’t know how to turn him down politely. It would get weird at work (already kind of is), but we both seem to want different things.