my girlfriend just wants to be friends

me and my girlfriend have been together for a year we were planning on moving in together right upto only two weeks i love her so much but we have now broke up as she says she only wants to be friends!..we went to a bbq 2 weeks ago it wa her brother in laws i didint know anyone there so felt shy and didint really talk the following day my ex said i embarased her she was cold with me for the following 3 days not holding my hand etc then i received a letter through my door which was posted by her friend saying she only wants to be friends..i asked to talk face to face so she came to my house couple days after she said she didint feel that close to me and the bbq made her realise that and she didint hold my hand for those days as she was teasting me!! i wanted to but thought sghe was angry with me for something i said to her to give it another 1 or 2 months as i love her so much so she said she will think about it a week later i had a nother letter saying she just wants to be friends she wants to still go away on weekends and holidays with me..i worrk for her 3 days a week as a gardener which i love i went back to work with her yesterday she was acting as tho nothing has ever happend between us and she kept on calling me by by name at every chance which she has never done before and she bought me lunch and tea something she would never of done when we where together am feeling down and stopped eating for a week…should i give up on her??? should i stop working for her in a job i love??

Category: Dating & Relationships asked July 12, 2014

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neilb

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Even though we can give an opinion on this issue none of us can tell you what to do. You are going to be the one who makes the final decision. Personally I think it would be good if you try to talk to her in person. Not necessarily to try to fix the relationship but to clear up some of the confusion. If you are going to be working with her you need to have that cleared up, It seems that she doesn't want to talk to you directly about it so the only way it will get done is if you initiate the conversation. Try telling her that you didn't know anything was wrong and that you thought she was angry at you. try explaining your point of view. I'm not saying this will fix the relationship (In fact she seems determined to sabotage it) but this should clear up some of the confusion and help you gain some clarity which could help you decide your next move. Now on a different note you did not do anything wrong, You acted as your nature dictates. If she had a problem with that it is on her to tell you that. These secret tests don't prove anything and your reaction is not only understandable but also logical. Her having her friend leave a note is pure cowardice. As a guy you would get yelled at if you tried to say the same thing through text. She was even less direct. Like i said if you want to get rid of some of the confusion you have to initiate because it seems that she will not.

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Levi-UR

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Just remember one thing, you can never force love in a relationship. If she doesn't want to be together, moving on is the best thing for you and her both!

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Sarmad

Definitely give up. She's leading you on and it isn't right. I feel as if she being a bit narcissistic being that she does all of this stuff for you one minute then the next, you feel like nothing to her. Just lay it out to her and tell her how you feel. Tell her she's making you feel all of these emotions and you really want to be with her. Tell her you 2 can be friends (If you'd like) but, you just want to know where her heart is.

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