Let my friends go?

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I’ll be going to college this fall which gives me great anxiety as I’ll be starting over. I’ve finally got friends who I don’t have to be fake with and have made me into a confident person. But I fear we’re all changing…my best friend of 14 years has become consumed with what I see to be shallow high school things and people…she seems to be obsessed with hooking up with guys and seems to see herself as superior to me because of it? I’m afraid of letting go after all these years but at the same time I feel I can’t relate to her at all…I’m very concerned with work and my future and she just doesn’t seem to be. I’m afraid of being alone and being unliked. Please help!

Category: asked May 13, 2014

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That's so exciting about college- and congrats! I wouldn't sweat it too much about friends- at school, you'll meet so many people it's hard to wrap your head around. You might be surprised at the kind of life long friendships you can form there. People change as they grow and you'll find in due time, that sometimes you outgrow friendships. It's not a negative thing and only time will tell, but it happens when you grow in different directions. Your best friend might be struggling to cope with the pressures of the looming future. You could try telling her how you feel and see how she feels. My best friend in high school went to college WITH me (in fact, she was the only other person I knew there personally), and we still grew apart. She had different friends and a schedule that mine didn't jive with and vice versa. I still love her to death and will invite her to my wedding- she just won't be in it. I hope you see what I mean- and about people liking you- don't worry about that either! You can't like everyone, but I promise you that you will make friends that are like you and will like you just the way you are. Embrace that and yourself ♡
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Once you get that "at home" feeling in college, and you see how different college students act versus high school students, you will feel much better about this. My bestie ended up getting pregnant, and we lost touch for a good while. We always end up hanging out every blue moon though. She is still my best friend. Real friends stay friends regardless of distance or time apart. Remember that, and be happy :) the world is your oyster as they say (^.^)