just found out he’s married

You should tell his wife before him in my opinion so he doesn't have the time to make lies or excuses to defend himself.

Actually, I would tell him he needs to tell his wife. Give him the opportunity to handle it himself. After about a week or two, make an anonymous phone call and let her know. It's not fair to her that she doesn't know. I would also apologize and say you didn't know. I'm sure she will understand.

One, he gets the chance to come clean to his wife
Two, you follow up in case he says "ya, i took care of it", and he didn't
Three, cut him off, no more contact

I believe in healing and restoration, but some people don't want to change.

You need to find yourself a man that will respect you and love you and is only thinking about you! Good luck to you! I wish you the very best!

I don't think it's your place to tell his wife. I don't believe that you have the right to tell her and take away her life or happiness. And, you don't know that she doesn't know about you or that she doesn't approve.

You are only allowed to take care of yourself. If you don't wish to talk with him anymore tell him why and then stop contacting him and stop visiting him. Tell him that you think he should tell his wife for the sake of his marriage but it's not your place.

It is their marriage and he's the one who has to own up to it. Would you want to know or find out that way?

I feel that you come first in this whole thing. You have been lied to as well. This whole time you thought you were talking to a geniune person. So I think you need to tell him firstly and for mostly that you know. I would end it. You do not want to get hurt in the end of things. I can honestly tell you you deserve better. Some people would not care and continue the relationship. You however have a good head and know better. So worry about you first. Make sure you get this woman's name. Suggest that he also tells his wife. But honestly, you do not and should not tell her or force him too. It's a messy situation. It's not like you knew. Down the road eventually if you want to reach out to her and see if he told then I would. But because again you should come first. I think that you need to tell him. Let him know what he did to you and his wife was wrong. Then do something for yourself. Go out with friends, do something you like to do, whatever. He is the one who has to live with what he did. And you can move on knowing you will find better :) good luck!

Hi, I'm really sorry to hear he did that to you. I'm sure that must be a horrible place to be. If you ever want to talk or want someone to listen, you can always message me anytime.I think you are right, you should tell his wife. She ought to know. It's true that their marriage is their business, but she doesn't know what's going on in her business, and so it's her place to know. then you should stop talking to him that way. He did something bad and it isn't right for you or his wife to be treated like that. Im sure it will be hard to let go, Im sure it already is really hard to be going through. But I know one day you can find a man who really loves you and will be wholly committed to you and will show you he's there for only you; like ChristopherRyan saidI hope things go well and you have a very good life!

Hi thanks everyone some good advice from all of you, feel a bit clearer about what I should do but still not 100% sure. Not sure I'll ever be to be honest!

you would either tell his wife or just end this relationship ,cuz its gonna be difficult if he has kids or something and you don't want to be the reason to split the family a part.