Is she really my ‘bestfriend’?

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So long story short i once told my bestfriend(we’ve been bestfriends almost ten years)that i have depression…she doesn’t seem to believe me eventhough she noticed the depression symptoms i’ve had…back pain,nausea,headache,sad all the time,crying out of nowhere,break down in the middle of the class and all sorts of stuff…but in the end she just act like i never told her that…and she start to hang out with others and keep hanging out with me to the minimal value…she makes my depression a lot worse than before…and now i start to question our friendship and my trust towards her…i don’t know what to do…

Category: Tags: asked May 30, 2014

5 Answers

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I think she might not know how to deal with you, or what do to, how to behave, and chose to detach herself. It doesn't mean she doesn't consider you her friend anymore, but as for best friend, she might not be willing, or feeling ready, to take that role in your life.
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i'm sorry. is there a school counsellor or someone who will be understanding about how you feel. You could discuss how you feel and what has been happening in your life. You can get support for yourself from people who show compassion for your situation. It ail be a relief to share how you feel with someone understanding. Try not to worry about your friends reaction. She may not understand or know what to do that is why she is acting in this way.
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If you have had these issues for a while and have been seeing a counsellor etc it might be a good idea to find a support group with people your age who are going through similar feelings so you can understand and support each other. You could ask the counsellor about such a group. Try not to worry about your friends reaction for now and deal with it more later. Just get the help and support you need for now. Your friend may not be able to help you with this because she does not have the ability, does not understand or has too many problems of her own to deal with. Hang in there and love yourself. Be good to yourself and cut off any stressful situations from your life that you can.
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Many people see depression as attention seeking, this could be what your bestfriends thinks however she may just be scared that she might loose her bestfriend to this condition. First thing is talk about your feelings to someone who will listen as bottling feelings up will just make it worse. Then try talking to your bestfriend again and try and get her to understand that you need her to support you. If she really is your bestfriend she will stand by you.
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i'm very sorry to hear that,some people can't handle being around people who are depressed because they get depressed too,if she wants to hang with other people then let her,i've been through this before,being around her will get you more depressed,my advice is try to make new friends,i know it is hard and it might seem impossible but believe me one you've met other people your mood will change and depression will go away,i really hope that things work out