is my relationship “picker” broken?

I've had the same thing happen with anyone I ended up being with, and it didn't end too well a couple of times. Recently I've found someone, and we're working through things for the both of us. As far as I've worked out it's not an issue, you just need to know how to work with it and they need to know how to work with you. It also needs to be something that you can actually help them fix. If you find the right match, you'll be happy. Long term it shouldn't be an issue either, unless you allow it to be by not letting previous relationships and problems go.

Most likely, I would say yes. You gain your personality through the experiences you have growing up. If something like that happened early in your childhood say at the age of 8, then most likely (I can't speak for you, but if I was in that situation) you would have been feeling worried, unsure what to do and wanting to do whatever you could to help make her feel better. That's what leads to empathy, and events like that are what brings it out most. It stuck, and now whenever you see someone that is sad or needs help you do what you can to make them feel better. Again, that's another experience that was similar for me. Hope it helped :3

Took the words right out of my mouth, Curious Lynx.

I've realized I do this because I have "daddy issues" and I'm always trying to "fix my dad" in these relationships. Maybe start looking as to why you do this, it'll help ANY relationship.

well when I was 8 I remember seeing my mother crying nonstop when her and her partner broke up and that specific day my mom received court papers saying the expartner was sueing her to take me away from her. maybe seeing my mom like that might contribute to this?