is it sexual assault?

when i was 16 my cousin’s fiance started touching me inappropriately – nothing serious at first, but there were also comments made – it was my first sexual sort of experience. I’d always had a crush on him so felt like it was a good thing to do, plus he was older and was really kind to me. They were married yet he still tried it on.

As i got older it got a little bit more extreme, we never had sex just the things before that. I knew it was wrong and i tried to stop it but he always persuaded me – it got to the point where my cousin would be in the next room having morning sickness with their second child and he would be trying to force his hands on me.

He was never found out and still makes gestures and comments at me. Was i in the wrong for allowing it to happen?

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2 Answers

Sexual assault is any involuntary sexual act in which a person is threatened, coerced, or forced to engage against their will, or any sexual touching of a person who has not consented.But since you were underage, it's a whole different story.What your cousin's fiance did is disgusting and wrong, and you should tell someone you trust like a parent or a counselor. Don't keep it secret any longer.

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Pparachutes

No. What you did was not wrong. Nothing you did was wrong. Because you were underage makes all the difference. It's normal to have feelings for a person and when they finally make those moves you always wanted them to, to feel good. That's okay, that's not wrong, but what he did was take advantage of those feelings and especially you're age. But now that he has taken it farther I think it is time to tell him to stop, you don't want to do it anymore. It's down. Make it firm and if he still persists it's time to tell someone. It may feel like you're doing something wrong but from experience tell someone. You can not keep this to yourself much longer, it's not healthy.

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