He works as an independent painter (but he has no advertisement going) He works specifically through word of mouth (which to me just isn’t right. you cant sit around and wait for work to come to you!) I do not remember the last time he worked M-F, or over 30hrs a week. He has never had no benefits, no savings, no ira’s or any type of future plan. He is 35yrs old. I watched this for 10+ years. I worked and took care of everything. Some weeks in the winter he has absolutely NO work. We have 3 kids, 2 together. 2yrs ago i decided to finally buy a home for our family. We talked alot abt this and he promised that he would be there to help take care of things, hed find more work, do whatever hes gta do. this never happened. And when he did work he still had a hard time ever giving me anything out of his checks. After having numerous disconnection notices, having to charge up my cards because stuff breaks or goes wrong in house or vehicle…(I dont have any extra money now to save as extra for when these kinds of emrgs), my credit has declined and im working over 40 hrs a week and Still struggling. I have recently had to ask him to leave. I’m beginning to resent him for this stress in having and foe my shoulders being weighed down so much juat because he feels he doesnt need to work!!! We argue and I complain all the time about me having to live paycheck to paycheck struggling trying keep all bills paid and kids fed w clothes and everything else 3 kids need…he yells at me that all I care about is money, he says I need to care abt love and see that he has That for me, he’ll say stupid stuff like sorry hes not rich but he does what he can and also always brings up how me he helps me by cleaning the house or picking kids up from school and that I need to realize that. I need to quit thinking hes worthless just bcuz he cant help financially at all. I mean this is the mentality he has!! Idk its driving me crazy, mad, sad, I am starting to hate him and he doesnt understand in the least bit WHY. He thinks I’m turning mean. How do I get it thru to him that its not about the money! Its about letting some of this stress off my conscious, giving me some leeway! He is capable of working just as much as i do! Things would be sooo much better for our family!! Augh I love him but I hate him.