Is it normal to have a crush on someone other than your partner?

I think it's natural to have crushes on people. Just because you're in a relationship, doesn't mean that the part of you that feels attracted to people is set to your partner. I've had other crushes, because they're fun to have, but I don't want to do anything about them. Mainly because they're only crushes, and aren't anything special to me, and because I hate the thought of being with anyone other than my partner. You can handle your crushes in a few ways; try and get over them, or have them and keep them low key because they're fun. You may not feel as attracted to your partner, because your relationship isn't in the 'new' stage anymore. Falling in love comes quick, but staying and being in love is steady, with some sparks. Maybe find something new to do with your partner and get a spark up again? But anyway, I think crushes are fine as long as you know you want to stay with your partner and not act on your crushes. They can only go so far before it breaks your relationship.

That sort of thing happens when you feel unfulfilled in your relationship in some way. There is some area where you are probably no longer connecting or maybe never did. I don't know. I'm not in your relationship. You said you are bored and that is what boredom is - being unfulfilled. I think you really just need to confront whatever it is about your current relationship is causing you to be so unfulfilled. Do you feel disconnected from them? If so, why do you think that is? And what measures can you take in order to feel connected with them again? You said you don't want to break up so I assume you consider this a relationship worth fighting for. So those are things you can try. I think this sort of temptation will pop up in every relationship but there are ways to prevent it once you know what's causing it to happen.

I think that once you start crushing on people and start wanting to cheat then its time to break up. Just tell your partner how you feel and maybe they're feeling the same way too. If you just take a break that might rekindle the relationship, or give you the freedom to realize that they're not the right person for you.

I do think it is normal. Atleast, my friend says it's normal, and that it's happened to them before. My girlfriend is also in love with someone else, and I am in love with both my girlfriend and a friend.