Is it me or my parents?

I always feel awful when my dad talks to me. He always tells me not to let people bother me or get to me but when I stop caring and not let it bother me he gets mad cuz I don’t care I forget alot if things. I just turned 18 I’m still a teenager I’m growing up slowly and he always treats me nd acts like I’m 12 I understand in his eyes I still alittle girl I get that but I can’t be a teen without constantly being thought of as a mess up he’s told me I’m selfish and u feel so bad and it makes me cry and I do nothing about it… Is there something wrong with me??? I need to change I no all the things I do wrong but he gets sooo upset with all the time I talk to my boyfriend and he can’t understand why he does what he does and I complain about my dad and when my boyfriend agrees I breakdown and stand up for my dad. I love my dad so much but he makes me feel like I’m less then dirt sometimes…what do I do to actually make him happy with me???

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Not that bad

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You are not doing anything wrong. You need to have confidence in yourself and know that your father needs to treat you better. No one deserves to be talked down to. There is nothing wrong with you. You should live your life trying to make yourself happy and with time your father will realize what an amazing daughter he has.

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Tryingitout

You dont have to change for you dad because he loves you the way you are . He wants to teach you good and thats okey but what he mean by saing it dont care about others say .. he mean if you are gatting judge unfairly then dont worry about those people.. about the people that push you down.

I think that if you just talk to him it will be fine.
Ask him . "what can i do to make you proud "
His answer will be that you dot have to do anything at all because you are perfect.
You love your dad and he loves you so dont worry whne he gats angry because he dosent mean it .. he dont want to do bad , he dosent even know he goes to harush on you just tell him that.

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Kathrine

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Parents can be pretty strict. He doesn't want people to talk down to you and I don't think that he is talking down to you on purpose. I think perhaps he's just frustrated from having to repeat himself a lot. If he thinks your selfish than I can see why he still treats you like your so young. It prob just means he wants you to be more responsible.. maybe take you parents into consideration more. ..?.. You know your situation best.
Also, if you don't let your boyfriend talk bad about your dad when you yourself are upset with your dad, than this is probably why you say you know there are some things you need to change. Change what you can. It's not all at once, but you can try changing the things that are easiest first. And if what your dad says really does upset you than just bring it up to him. It won't work the first time trust me, but if your trying to make him happy than he should try with you as well.

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Ciel

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