Is it me, or Him?

I have been with my boyfriend for 4yrs. I’m 20 and he is 23. I love him deeply. We have talked so much about our future, but now I am having thoughts about breaking up with him, and it breaks my heart. Lately he has been a jerk to me. He thinks I am made of money and I’m barely making enough on things I need.
It all started when he got paid ($800) He spent half of it on a PS4 along with a new game. He still had his Xbox 360 and had plan on “giving” it to me, but he wasn’t just going to give it, he wanted me to pay him $100 for it! I told him “why can’t you give it to me, I’m not just anyone, I’m your damn Girlfriend!” He replied “Because I need that money” I said “So do I”. and that went on for a while. Then he just dropped it and gave it to me.
We are not living together, so when I ask him to come over and see me, he has the nerve to say I don’t have any gas.. which really pisses me off, b/c he spends every dime he has on things he wants. I don’t care that he plays games, I wish he knew how to save money so he can spend time with me.
Last night I accidentally dropped and cracked the corner of his I pod touch (which he has had for 3+ yrs) and he expects me to pay whatever it takes to fix it. I Told him “if it’s over $100 I’m not paying” he said “yes you are, your fucking broke it, you fix it.” The problem here is that it’s NOT broken! if I broke it or it want even turn on, I’ll be glad to buy him a new one for Christmas, but it works fine. it’s not even the screen it’s a piece of the corner.

I don’t know what to do anymore! Any options? I still love him, but I don’t know what is problem is, he use to not be like that. I’m scared of what my life will be if we get married..

asked October 7, 2014

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Some Girl22

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Hi, I'm a man and my opinion often stands in stark contrast to those of my female fellow humans. And I'm also a broke, lazy gamer and can't save money. But I will tell you to get rid of him. The burden here is clearly on you and any relationship requires at least two players to enjoy the party. If he can't make enough to benefit the team, it's acceptable to bail him out if he's being decent about it. As it stands, however, he is not seeing you as his girl anymore. I treat fellow students better than that. My aunt has had a similar problem with a man who has completely given up and just takes everything for granted which even his daughter doesn't want to put up with. Leaving him has essentially given her a life to live. Plenty of fish in the sea and such.

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DuctTape

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This reminds me of one of my exes. Unfortunately we did live together and it was a nightmare. I was trying to pay bills and but groceries while he spent his money of beer and video games. I understand your frustrations and I can pretty much guarantee that it will get infinitely worse if y'all got married. My ex and I were together for two years before we split. I couldn't take the stress of our finances and his attitude anymore. My suggestion would be to just end it. Walk away now before it gets any worse. Yes it will hurt and it'll be miserable for a little while, but I believe you'll be better off in the long run. I've never regretted leaving my ex and it's nice only having to worry about your finances.

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apoetofsorts

This is coming from a guy. I think any man that put anything before his gf doesn't deserve her at all money. Houses, cars, games, these things are physical I believe what a couple has between them is a bond that's more than physical its emotional mentally and spiritual which is worth way more and every guy that truly cares about their gf should know. My suggestion is focus on you self, care for your self make yourself a better person and the right guy for you will come along. I sincerely hope this helps and the best of luck to you :)

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Mj1993

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