Is it bad that I don’t let people in my life easily enough?

I’ve never let people become my friends easily. In 5th grade, all of our elementary schools came to the middle school. I can honestly say I didn’t want anything to do with the kids that came from the other 2 schools. I never really started making friends with the kids until November-December. I always think they will end up hurting you if you let them in too easily. I still believe that. My friend lets people in easily and I feel like the new people she lets in hurt her in some way. Its not that I don’t have friends or anyhting because I do. I also open up once I’m your friend, but I have to make sure I can trust you. I’m scared this is something bad and I should be over it by now, but I’m not. Help?

Category: Society & Culture asked October 24, 2013

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Emily.

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It's absolutely fine to believe that. Some would say you're completely right to believe that. It took me around 4 years of school to make any decent friends. That's fine though. Believe me, there's nothing wrong with you at all. We're all different

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SatanClaus

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That's completely normal. Some people just tend to be really selective when it comes to picking friends. You're cautious, and that's fine. But you need to learn to open up a bit, because not everyone is what you think.

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mathematicalgirl

My mother and I are both the same way. We warm up to people very slowly. Just make sure you have meaningful and close friendships. You don't need to have many. If you don't have enough or feel lonely, maybe it's time to gradually start letting the most trustworthy people in.

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Of Fans And Flames

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Its fine, just don't be to closed up. That way if someone who would be your perfect friend can be your close friend eventually

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Mackenzie L

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I think its defense mechanism. In a way, its good so that people dont hurt you. But keep in mind that its important to let people be a part of your life. I think you should open up more, but always be cautious about what you tell people and who you trust.

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ClareBear