Is it a waste of time to be chatting?!

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Met this guy ramdomly online. He was attracted to something I said. And felt that he wanted to get to know me. We live in different countries, and have been talking now for about 10 months. At first, I did not talk to him much I just accepted his friend request. But, then we started talking a lot. At least once a week, now once daily, and all day and night sometimes. He came on strong at first with flirting/ He was very sexual… . Then after seeing that I was in a happily commited relationship, he backed off some and started mentioning his girlfriend. He tells me a lot about his personal issues, and asked for advice a lot. He sometimes will throw in things like “My girlfriend is ungrateful, but Your a sweetheart, I would bend over backwards for you” and will say I love you my friend. He will compliment me on how great of a friend I am to him. And thanks me often for being there to support him. But then it gets confusing when he will say things like I wish we could move somewhere just the 2 of us and have children. I had a bad day he told me that if he could he would hold me on his lap and listen to me all night!…. Just random stuff like that. I stopped messaging him for 2 weeks and he messaged me to say that he missed me. I am wondering what is running through his head. What do you think? Friend, or something more!!

Category: asked July 12, 2014

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Hey . I think that this guy is clearly in love with you but he's afraid to lose your friendship . maybe you should both discuss things and make them clear between you two with an open mind . Wish you the best of luck .
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You ask if it's a waste to be chatting. I would say that it depends on what you want out of the relationship. I'm making the assumption that you're emotionally invested in this conversation partner because you can talk for days and nights on end.Are you sharing things in these conversations that you wouldn't share with your boyfriend? If so, then perhaps you could take a step back and evaluate both of these relationships. What do you hope to gain from these online conversations? Where do you want these conversations to evolve to (they're clearly evolving)?Where do you want your relationship with your boyfriend to go? After you answer these questions, you will probably be able to answer your questions as to whether or not it's beneficial to continue "chatting".This guy clearly has feelings for you. If he does have a girlfriend, then I would say that he is cheating on her by saying/feeling these things.
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Why did you have to make 3 separate questions saying the exact same thing? Some people, eh...
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When things like this,remember all the case scenarios in CatFish. 'Nuff said.