Is it a relationship or not?

Last year I met this guy and a little while later we started dating but we broke up a month later. I was completely devastated because I really liked him and I thought it was actually going somewhere, but I turned out to be wrong. We continued to be friends after what happened passed us by. Then last November we started talking again. I have to say it went really well. We talked about everything we felt we did wrong in the relationship. Also, we talked about how we both still really liked each other. After a few weeks of talking, we were talking about getting back into a relationship, but we both weren’t ready for it just yet. So we decided that we would test it out to see if it could work. Kind of like a flirtationship. We are now 2 and half months into this flirtationship but we’ve been treating it more like it’s a relationship. He told me that I wasn’t single and neither was he. So does this mean we’re one step closer into getting into a relationship? I have know idea what’s going on between us. We both say we love each other. So where is this going?

Category: Dating & Relationships asked January 8, 2014

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Feefck

5 Answers

looks like its a relationship! also be upfront and talk to him about it!

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Jane

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I would say its a relationship now but my guess as to where its going is that it will be a long term thing since you guys talked about your feelings which is a good thing and you know you both like each other a lot and tell each other you love them so yeah I would say it is and everything will be alright haha ^.^

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courtney

Ask him to clarify the relationship if you're unsure. I can't tell you if it's a relationship or not because it's up to what he thinks is a relationship. Although you say "He told me that I wasn’t single and neither was he," you don't seem sure about it. The only think you can do is ask. Plus, I would personally want a guy to voice out that we're in a relationship so that I won't be awake at night wondering what our status is. But there is a likely possibility that you two are in a relationship. Good luck--just communicate, it's a good thing! :)

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SilentRain

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Hello Feef, and thank you for sharing your feelings with us.

If it looks like a duck...if it walks like a duck...and if it barks like a duck...then you have a dog dressed like a duck.

You're in a relationship, sit your guy down sometime and tell him that renaming a hat into a head-wallet doesn't change the fact that it is a hat. :)

Good luck!

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Humanist Hope

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This could or could not being a relationship, it all depends on what the guy thinks. It sounds more like dating, which is quite different from a relationship. Although usually dating is the stage of getting to know each other, it can also be used to rekindle an old flame. If you really are not sure, just be straight up and ask. Relationships need communication, and practice will only make perfect.

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Meaghan