Is he too old for me??

You're an adult. You're allowed to date whoever, age doesn't matter. If you want to give it a go, why not? Ya know. You're young, so I assume you have school, or work. Don't forget to concentrate on that. Those come before relationships. Do whatever you think benefits you. All that's important is that you're happy.

As a guy yes I would say he is to old. I mean anymore than 5 years is a little questionable on both parts. mainly if their are significant life experience differences. consider he is 50% older than you. and When he was 19 you were 8.

It's not really about how old you are, it's about the way your relationship works out. So long as both parties feel safe, comfortable and content, age means very little.

I think at 19 you need to think about education and friendships rather than relationships! But if you love him no he's probably not too old but he may be a lot more mature than you

I agree with Charlotte, he'll probably be more mature. That is quite the gap, but it could be worse... However, I personally wouldn't date a guy that much older than me. I would be a bit skeptical that he would even consider me.. But I mean, be reasonable, and just know that the age gap isn't too small and that fact can bring tension into the relationship. I can't really tell you what to do with your love life, but just remember: don't just follow your heart, because that alone can be a disaster--you've got to FOLLOW YOUR MIND. Good luck! And think very carefully about this!

With an age gap of that size, the biggest factor is that he is going to be ready to settle down and take a career or profession to the max if he is in fact a motivated individual with goals and on track with his life, whereas you are at the age of choosing whether you want to go to college or not, deciding what career direction you would like to pursue if any, and starting your life on your own. Given the situations, if your lives are in fact as active as most people's lives at your ages, then you won't be seeing much of each other other than later during the days or during mornings. Other than that, it is easy to grow dependant on him given that he presumably has a home of his own and has been able to fill it with about 10 or so years of working and personalization. And if you grow dependant on him, and then the relationship happens to not work out, that leaves you back where you started before you met him, if you can in fact get back there provided you are still in the same general area geologically should such an event happen. Geologically because familiarities such as family and locally known businesses and friends would be a contributing factor to your recuperation. There is a lot to factor in with such an age gap. However, I by no means seek to simply discourage you from it. There have been successful relationships with such age gaps that turn out just fine. While I've seen 'follow your mind' posted previously here, I can full heartedly disagree with that statement, as the mind knows nothing but what you teach it, whereas the heart only knows the truth. Following your heart is the only way to approach this, and if you feel any sort of dissonance with it, then don't be afraid to back out. However if pursuing things such as dating this man come into resonance with you, then by all means follow your heart and see where this takes you :)

Just to give a little insight, he is happily working at the moment, and hasn't settled down yet. I am of university age and am doing a course in children's nursing and so I know what I want from my career and know where I want my life. I will not let anything get in my way of my hopeful future. This is what I think makes me different to other 19 year olds.. I am nearly 100% sure of where I want to go career wise and where I want to be in 10 years. And when I say date I mean go out for a couple of drinks or go to the cinema or go for a meal and see where it goes from there.. I am not easily persuaded and am not very impressionable. So the idea of going oh I love him I will do anything for him is just ridiculous. I am my own person. :)

It is a personal decision . If you want to date someone that much older, by all means go for it. But you are so young..in a personal opinion i would say you should try to meet others around your age as seeing that this person has been around a lot longer and that you still have so much to experience and that you do not want to be held back for any reasons whatsoever.

Age does not matter unless you care about the inevitable judgment of others. People who see just the numbers don't understand how your relationship is. Only you two will understand that. If you enjoy each other's company and make each other happy, there is no problem. All you can do in life is surround yourself with the things that make you happy. Nothing is stopping you so go for it!

He might not be too old for you, but as someone as old as he, I think you might be a bit too young for him (for a stable relationship). But who knows, see what are his friends like.

@rae I had a young acquaintance who was dating a 30 year old guy, and she too was worried he would be looking for a wife and to start a family, but, most times, I think that's not exactly what is going in his mind, possibly the exact opposite (he was pretty comfortable with just sex, they ended up FwB and she wasn't much happy about it).

No. The only way you will feel any difference in age is if you point it out.

Nope. Not too old. :) When I was 19 I dated a 39 year old.

I just want to note that Jay Z is 44 and Beyonce is 32. One of the most notable celeb couples have a 12 year age gap. I see no problem with you and him dating. You're old enough to do what you please.

That's a bigger age group than what most people think is acceptable, and (as others have said), he's going to be looking for something really serious, and at his age, he's going to be looking for someone who is wife material. He will be more mature, too, like others have said.What I like about a smaller age gap is that you have the same kinds of experiences at the same times. For example, my husband and I remember the same movies and TV shows we watched as kids. We remember the old trends, etc.With that being said, though, you're an adult now, do what you think is right and what is best for you.