Insecurity in love..

I’m such a chicken when comes to love. I liked a guy for a year and took a lot of courage to confess my love to him. He didnt give me a clear answer but it’s very obvious that he doesnt like me at all. I feel like I’m the most unattractive girl in the world. I push myself away from my friends and guys. I started to afraid of love. Because I never had a true relationship. Only a puppy love and a fling with some feelings too ;( I like the type of guy who is a listener but I always attracted to the opposite type of guys..what’s going on ><

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bubbles_ppg

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Rejection, self-doubt and fear of being hurt are the reasons why you are pushing people away.

1. Realise that not everybody will hurt you. Sure, some people will, but by not allowing yourself to get close to anyone, think of all the things you're missing out on. Would you rather miss out or take risks? There's a saying that goes: "When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did."

2. Know your self-worth. List all the things you're good at, whether it's math or being funny. If you feel down about yourself, look at the list you've made, and remember - you rock! Build that self-confidence and you will be more attractive!

There's nothing wrong with being attracted to a guy who is the opposite of your dream boy. Just remember, if it's not going to work out, then IT'S NOT THE END. You can always start over. Someone meant for you is still waiting for you to come by.

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Packy Manny

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Hey there! I just want to say, there is nothing "wrong" with you. You aren't a broken toy to be fixed (I feel like I say that a lot these days xD), but it appears as though you feel terrified of holding yourself back. I would like to tell you it's easy to cope with the things we think our flaws, but it isn't. You have to do the most ridiculous things sometimes just to learn how to look in the mirror and say how much you love yourself first.Start there. Start with loving yourself, being confident in yourself. Look in the mirror and tell yourself all the things you love about you. Write about the wonderful parts of you, be they physical parts of you or mental parts of you. If you are having a hard time starting on your own, ask your friends. Your friends can list a million great things about you.Once you love yourself, you'll find it's easier to open your heart to others as well. By no means is this an easy thing to do, but it's worth it. Boy is it worth it.

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Wynne

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Dont let yourself feel down. There is nothing wrong with you, we are all beautiful and attractive. Trust yourself and don't wait for the right one to come because it will just knock on your door when you least expect it. xoxo :)

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