Insecurities — what to do when someone shares them with you?

The main reason why I came to this website was to learn to listen to others and to give them advice. I haven’t been here for long, so I still have a loooong way to go.

Today, the girl I have this huge crush on, told me some of her insecurities (about her body) that I had no idea she had, and I didn’t know what to tell her. I really struggled with words and body gags— I couldn’t come up with something that could eventually help her.
Can someone help me?
What do I have to say?
How do I have to react? I listen and I really like to listen to people when they vent, but I can never come up with some good advice…

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Marie

3 Answers

Tell her that you don't see her that way, and if she sees that in herself, then she should do something to change. It's NEVER okay to hate yourself, trust me, I know, help her get through this and tell her she's she looks fine to you and you don't think she needs to change. And if she wants to do something to change herself, that's fine. But if it's something anorexia, don't let her. Let her know that people still like her for who she is.

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AndiElizabeth

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Yes, I should! Thank you~<3

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Marie

Wish I could upvote your answer a few more times, I think everyone needs to read that, it will help a lot, in any case. I actually did say to her "how could you think of that?", but now I see and it totally makes sense what you're saying. Thank you so much for your answer, it really helped.

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Marie