I’m confused & don’t know what to do…

Hello there, I’m 16 & from the UK. I know a girl that I have been talking to for a few months now. She doesn’t go to my school: in fact, I’ve never met her, I only talk to her through Skype or Snapchat. Whilst she has a boyfriend, and I’m not interested in her in that way, I still love seeing her reply to a message I’ve sent her: it makes me feel like I’m wanted by someone.
Unfortunately, she doesn’t want to talk to me, like at all, and I have no idea why. She isn’t busy, I know that for a fact, since she opens my Snapchats asking her if she’s ok or what she’s up to. The second I go online on Skype, she goes offline: the second I go offline, she comes back online. It isn’t coincidental, how can it be?
She is the only girl that I talk to and consider to be a friend, and I’m scared that I’m going to lose her. Please can someone help me? Thank you

asked February 18, 2014

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CatWithScissors

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If I were you I would apologize for possibly invading her space. It seems she is avoiding you and most likely she is doing that because she feels suffocated a little by your constant contact. Just let her know that you're not trying to bother her, you are sorry if you have been, and that you hope to continue the friendship. Make sure she knows that you are not trying to interfere at all with her relationship and that if she is avoiding you because of that, she has nothing to worry about either. You just miss her friendship and are worried that she is not 100% comfortable with it. If she is a decent person, she will respond to this heartfelt apology.

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AnonyMissAnn

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Thank you both for your advice, it really means a lot <3 AnonyMissAnn: Regarding the "constant contact" thing, I don't think that is a factor, as I have had conversations with her that have lasted for hours on end without any problems: this is a recent thing that has started in the past few weeks & I have no idea why. I also don't think she believes I'm interfering with her relationship, if she thought that, then surely she would have said something to me months ago? aaditya: the only things I have said to her recently have been "hey" and "what you up to?" so I don't think I've offended her in anyway. Once again, thank you both for your help, I'll be sure to apologise for any wrongdoings :)

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CatWithScissors

well it could be something you did unknowingly, something you said or maybe you were a little to clingy for her. It could also be that something has happened in her personal life that she doesn't want to talk about. send her a message explaining that you are confused as to why she is avoiding you apologize for anything you could have done, make it sincere and make sure she knows she can talk to you about what ever it is.

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The Curious One

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Wow, as I checked my emails, I was also writing a message to her at the same time xD I've put basically what you guys said, mentioning how I'm confused, I'm sorry if I've offended you in some way, and if you have a personal problem and you need someone to talk to, I'm always online. If anything else happens I'll let you know. Once again, thank you so much for your help <3

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CatWithScissors

OK so I decided to leave it overnight, and she still hasn't responded. She's also gone Do Not Disturb on Skype, which she very rarely does. Do you guys think I should just leave her alone for a few days until she's ready to talk?

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