I feel in order to get the best possible advice, I need to tell the whole story. So thank you in advance for reading this all. 
So I have a friend I have known since we were 8. We are 24 now. I grew up with her and know her family very well. In 2011 on her 21st birthday her mom passed away suddenly from a liver disease mostly from taking prescription depression pills and drinking. It was really hard on her. Now, a week ago her dad passed away from what the coroner says was a mixture of an enlarged heart and a bad liver. He was a heavyyy drinker. They won’t know what the exact cause was for another couple weeks. Amanda actually found her dad in his home after not hearing from him for a couple days. It was really traumatic for her.
At this point, her life is in pieces. She lives in our hometown. More like “stuck” in our hometown. I don’t know if anyone has heard of San Bernardino, California or the “inland empire” but one quick look on the internet will show you what a crap hole this place is. I moved to Hawaii in 2012 and have been having the time of my life out here.
I want to get her out here.
She is SO smart and I know she has dreams and she could do anything she wanted. I have offered her so many times even before the passing of her dad. One of the main problems is her boyfriend. She has been in an on and off relationship with this piece of crap guy since we were 18. He started off as a good guy. Honest and hardworking. Great for her. They had their own place and both working and I guess they just couldn’t manage their money and ended up moving in with her grandma. Actually at first Amandas grandma didnt even know he lived there with her. They have been there for about 3 years now. Amanda is still working the same dead end part time job. Her boyfriend is now addicted to prescription pain pills which she refuses to admit is a legitimate problem. He mooches off her and her family. And just this last week, after the passing of her father, her boyfriend CRASHED HE CAR. He says he “blacked out” and ended up in some ladies front yard. I believe it was related to the pills.
Either way, I think you can see what a mess her life is. She has no friends, now only has her grandma and crap boyfriend. I think its my obligation as her best friend, as her only friend, as her SISTER to kidnap her and make her do something with her life. No matter how much it hurts to let that guy go, even if temporary for him to straighten out his life, she needs to focus on hers and I know her family would support me on this. I know her mom would have wanted better for her.
How do I do this? How do I make her see? I need her just as much as she need this. Please any advice would help. I need outside perspective. Thank you!
