I need some advice. support

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About 3 years ago me and my (now ex) girlfriend went to visit a friend of mine in Spain. My friend had her sister there with her and my ex and this other girl(the sister) had an attraction that I have noticed and she admited to. I felt really hurt then and betrayed because we had a good relationship and loved each other. Unfortunatelly we drifted apart and a year ago I decided to break off. We stayed friends because we have been through so much together that we are like family. We moved to a new city and we have been having a good time meeting new people and going out together etc. My ex started ignoring me completly about a month ago and when I started talking to her about this she has admited to being in love with that girl from spain and planning on meeting her and maybe be together. I know that we are not together anymore and I don;t have feelings for her but this has affected me, I feel betrayed again, I feel that maybe I was only someone that she took advantage of and now that there is someone else in her life I am no longer her friend/family. Am I being unreasonable?

Category: asked November 10, 2014

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Hey Sonia, I don't think you are being unreasonable, I can fully understand why you would feel betrayed. However, I do think it's better to reason in a way that you will appreciate their honesty now, instead of feeling betrayed in the past. Holding grudges in the end is only a waste of time. I'd rather spend that time being happy with new people that deserve a happy person around them :)No reasoning is bad. In whatever perspective you want to look back on this, its a perspective.Good luck with it!