I need help (move on or stay?)

There is a reason why things didn't work out the first two times, and it's a fair chance that that very reason still exists this time around, which really only leaves you with two options. Make an effort got get past the issue, or move on with your life. I can't tell you what you do, you'll have to figure that one out for yourself. The question is, is she worth it? Are you willing to fight for someone who doesn't appear to be as eager as you are to rekindle the relationship once again? Or do you think the best thing would be to accept that what you had was good while it lasted, and move on and find someone who wants to be with you as much as you do them. Don't let yourself be held back, you could be missing out on something great. Someone who makes you feel nothing but happy. In the end, it's up to you, just keep in mind that you're doing this for YOU, not anyone else. Everyone deserves a fair chance of happiness.

If you are choosing to move on then you should focus on things that make you happy. Hobbies of yours that you can distract yourself with. You are attached to her but eventually you won't be if you don't feed that attachment. Just do what makes you happy and hang out with friends.

First things first, what do you want? Do you want your relationship to start working again or do you want to move on?It is your life so this has to be your desicion. If you chose to continue the relationship them I guess the first thing you need to do is talk to your girlfriend again. Not to be very blunt but most of time when you "start over again" too much harm has been done before. But when you talk to your girlfriend about it, you can be a bit more specific what you both expect from "taking it slow" so you can lean on this and it gives you more confident about the entire situation.If you want to move on... you do exactly what Hannah Banana said in the comment above me.

Time and emotions should spent on those who are worthy enough of deserving it. Ask yourself aloud, if she is the one you want? I know it is hard to move on, especially when you love someone. But is it worth it to waste your time on someone who doesen't make the effort.And If she loves you, no matter what she'll make the effort. So good luck with that pal

In these situations, I feel it's best to move on. If she still loves you, she will be contacting you. If she has moved on, then you should save yourself from getting hurt.

If you move on: you dont get hurt, if she doesnt contact you and you are happy/neutral if she does contact you.

If you dont move on: you get hurt if she doesnt contact you and you are happy if she does contact you.

So the point is to save yourself from getting more hurt.

How to get over somone?

It's similar to OCD. Start noticing when she's in your head. As soon as you are conscious of your thoughts, you can distract yourself. Think of something else. Do something that you like. Concentrate on anything, a book, music, yoga, all that jazz. After you have found some ways to keep yourself busy, your head won't have the time to think about him. And that is what you want. Controlling thoughts about her.

It's kinda like learning a guitar or any other skill. Initially, you suck at it but you really want to do it. You overcome the frustration, hurt, etc. and practice and practice until you get good.

Determination & will power are your biggest allies.

Thank you all for the advice! it means allot and has helped! thanks!