So there this guy, I been like him since beginning of the year. But then my friend also like him and she went out with him for like a month. She broke up with him and I still have feeling for him ever since. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to ruin my friendship with her but i also really like that guy.
Typically the etiquette for this kind of situation is to ask your best friend about it. Say you know it's her ex but that you like him, so you want to know if it's okay to ask him out. If she's okay with it, then cool! If not, you might have to choose between keeping your friendship with her but not asking him out or asking him out and risk losing your best friend.
Basically what the person said above. Keep in mind though, if your friend doesn't approve and you go after him-- will it be worth it? What if you guys eventually break up? Would it have been worth the loss of your best friend? Please make a careful decision. The ending of a relationship is unpredictable.
If you have a best friend that used to be together with a ex i would just stay away because it can stain your friendship with your best friend. It happen to a friend once; she found out that her ex-boyfriend is dating her best friend from high school.
Woah. My PERSONAL opinion would be to back away immediately. Leave these feelings alone to crumble under the hot sun and become ashes. If she's a TRUE friend, you would do this. If it's someone you just know then I would suggest talking to her about it and see how she feels, but best friends are a no-go. Again, this is my personal opinion, you shall do as you please.
I say ask her about it. And tell her how you feel and stuff. Ask if it's okay to continue down that road and if she says yes, go for it, just don't brag about it to her face. If she says no, back away and don't try to.
This Seems My Problem too. haha But I Think If She's really a true friend of yours she'll definitely understand you. Why dont you talk to her and tell her all of the things you want to say. and explain your side and if she explain something or tell you something also listen to her. obeserve each point of view :)
Do you know the reason those two broke up? Maybe the guy isn't good enough or something..
She's your best friend right. So I guess it won't hurt to ask her about that guy. maybe ask her something like : Hey.. are you comfortable talking about your ex? I liked him back then..
Tell her that you want to hear about the guy from her..
Since she's your best friend I think she'll probably warn you if the guy isn't good for you. And trust me hearing that out from her side will make you rethink about your feelings as well. And if it turns out to be a nice guy and your friend broke up due to a mere difference in opinions.. maybe you can go for it.Not telling her is not the answer! She might be of great help. + You'll get some serious feedback about the guy which nobody else could've given.
Go forward.. Stay Happy.. :)
So this happened with me. My best friend, her ex, and I all used to be friends. We would text, occasionally hang out, and all that stuff. All was good. She didn't mind us being friends. But then her ex and I started to develop feelings for each other. Eventually she told me to choose between her friendship or him. That upset me but I guess it was going to happen eventually. He told me to choose whoever I wanted. He told me it was stupid that I had to choose since being with him wasn't going to affect my (or his) friendship with her. I liked his answer. I chose him. It's been 3 years. I'm still with him. We live together and we are happy. I haven't spoken to her in all that time though. For me, it was worth it. I think it's very rare for a person to keep both people in this situation. You're going to have to decide which person you'd rather keep eventually. Just like all the others have said.