I just don’t understand why?

I have this really great friend and she’s absolutely amazing she is interesting,funny,bubbly and a lovely person in general.
In college we are the best of friends,we always hang out and talk and laugh.Then on the weekends we meet up and go to party’s,discos,hang out with others etc.
We have so much in common and I can honestly say i love her.
But since the summer holidays started we have met up twice,TWICE and that’s nothing thats absolutely nothing compared to the amount of times we used to hang out together.
So the problem is why is she dodging all my questions i ask her does she want to go somewhere or do something but she’s constantly giving me excuses.At this point i don’t even want to text her anymore because i don’t want to sound to clingy.
But I miss her so much i haven’t seen her in a month and it pains me everyday without her… What should i do people?

Category: Depression Tags: #lost #lonely #help #confused asked July 4, 2014

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Yellow~Hope☀️

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There are quite a few possibilities for this. I wouldn't think there is any immediate need for concern, but if it lasts beyond the summer holidays there's probably something bothering her one way or another.

However, you seem very quick to grow frustrated with the distance between you. With no intention to accuse you of anything it appears to me you are a tad clingy. She might not mind, of course, but that in itself can be a reason for people to distance themselves from others. Based on my personal experience you would probably gain the most from giving her the space she apparently needs, and wait for her to contact you.

Please feel free to disregard this response if it doesn't seem helpful.

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Searinox

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Wait - you said "best of friends." Does she know you think of her as more than a friend? You didn't say you were dating... It seems to me maybe she has viewed you as an amazing, fun friend and maybe it has finally dawned on her that you are thinking of her romantically. ?? Maybe she's not sure where she wants to take that? I think some straightforward, no beating around the bush, convo is probably needed. Stop asking her to hang out and just ask her if you can talk. If and when she's ready to talk, she will. In the mean time, respect her space. Just tell her to get up with you when she's ready. And then just wait. I know it's hard... hang in there though! Hugs!

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