I have to get this off my mind…

Thank you for answering, Shiv. I'm not looking for the perfect guy, there's not such thing I know. He fits most qualities, but I also want my boyfriend to be healthy. That's why I say it's doomed. The other one was doomed because he was a jerk, which is why it didn't go anywhere, because who wants a jerk? I know I don't. Other than his jerkiness, he was really charming and also fit the qualities I was looking for. But he sent me on an emotional rollercoaster, lied to me too much, and then ended it all after taking me to freakin dinner. I was devastated for a whole year and we didn't even date/make it official. Now he binge drinks and has ruined his lungs smoking hookah all the time. He also ruined his hands because he hadn't gotten all his shots, drives like a maniac, and likes to talk about people negatively. That's when I got over him. Thank goodness I did. And I'm glad I knew deep inside I couldn't date him in the first place. There was always something about him.. As for this: "You will only be forever trapped in these relationships, if you let yourself be." I don't look for relationships intentionally because I don't necessarily want one. Dating can be pretty scary for me--it's one of my biggest fears, especially if you fall in love with the person (and he isn't even right for you). I complain because this has happened to me twice now, and it's already getting old. I'm hoping not to get trapped in such a predicament, but for now, that's all I'm going off of. I'm a pessimist when it comes to love or crushes, so Cupid doesn't like me right now haha.

I haven't much to say to this one. There is nothing wrong with having standards.

Yeah, I mean, I can try and get to know him, but it's hard to get people to quit their bad habits. And thanks, Jonathan. My standards aren't crazy high. I just want a guy that makes me laugh, is straightforward with me, is intelligent (and has goals for his success), and is at least my height. He also can't do drugs (that includes alcohol). So, I mean, I can try, but for now, since we're still getting to know each other, I don't want to scare him away trying to get him to quit. He'll see it as me trying to control his life too soon or something.