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I hate my mom’s boyfriend

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For almost 4 years now, my mom has been seeing this guy who I really can’t stand. She has brought him into my space and has changed the comfort of my own home. She has even told me that she would rather be with him than spend time with her own family. I admit it, it makes me jealous. He changed her and I feel like she doesn’t even care to know how I feel. I’ve tried expressing my feelings to her but immediately I am shot down and told that I’m being “selfish”. Of course I want her to be happy, but this guy isn’t good for her. Am I being selfish because I want my own mother back?

Category: asked January 19, 2014
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Ember
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Well this seems like a trap. I think you should tell her, "Mom, I dont like your boyfriend, and I know I cant make you break up with him, but can you please spend a little more time with your family because you are really making me feel like you care more about him than me." I would try something like that, and really try to seem serious. If she says your being silly say, well I guess my feelings and sadness is silly than mom. :S
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^ That's a great way to say it! And no, of course you're not being selfish! She's your mother and it's not like you're asking for much.

While this is not an excuse for her behaviour, try to understand that she is not just your mother, but a person, with a life outside of her children. I'm not sure about your situation, but it may be that she is dealing with a divorce or separation the best way she can, which is throwing herself into a relationship with this dude. Like I said, I'm not justifying her, but it may help you to not take her behaviour to heart. I hope things work out for you.
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