A month ago I thought I pretty much had my life figured out. After years of struggling with depression and anxiety I finally thought that I found the stability I needed to work on my issues. I had a good job and a boyfriend of 2 years that I thought I was going to marry, living in a fantastic city and plans to go to grad school. Within the space of 2 weeks I lost my job and my boyfriend broke up with me. Being completely honest, the relationship wasn’t the happiest and while I still believed we could work it out, it truly wasn’t working anymore. That doesn’t really change that I’m heartbroken and devastated, and I know he is just as broken up about it as I am.
I am currently up with my parents in the small town I grew up in, staying here until I can figure out what to do. I still have my lease on my apartment back in the city, but I’m not sure I should go back. My parents have told me they will try to help support me, but I don’t feel right about living off their money while I have no job. I have been applying all over since the day I lost my job and I haven’t even gotten a follow up email, let alone an interview.
Being back in my home town is extremely hard for my mental health, my parents and I butt heads a lot and I feel like a complete failure for losing everything. I don’t really have any friends here either, and for the most part I stay at home and do nothing. I feel like such a loser. I do have friends back in the city. And while moving back to the city might be better for my overall mental health, it is pretty likely that I’d end up seeing my ex and it would complicate things. There’s also the financial aspect coming into play.
I just don’t know what to do or where to go from here, I’m not sure whether I should stay with my parents until I can get my life together or try to tough it out back in the city. There are so many complications on either side, and on top of all of it I feel like I’m completely alone and I’ve lost everything good in my life. If anyone has advice or even words of encouragement it would be very welcome.