I don’t know what to do… I need boyfriend help.

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Hi, So i’m 15, I battled with depression, self_harm, anxiety, and kind of anorexia. I can get really panicky sometimes, especially when someone tells me they need to tell me something and starts to tell me but never does… But any ways, to day at school i was sitting at lunch with my boyfriend and this one girl who sits at are table (A.K.A one of my boyfriend’s friends) but we were all talking about what we were allergic to… so his friend asked him if he has told me yet, but to make a long story a little bit shorter… he told me he need to tell me something but he didn’t me because, he was scared of what my reaction would be because, i’m a christian and all. So, he got up and threw his trash away and went to the gym. Of course by this time i’m sitting there freaking out about to start bawling my eyes out, because i don’t take that kind of stuff very well. His friend was still sitting across from me and end up telling me what they were talking about, she told me my boyfriend smokes weed and chews. After are last to classes i was getting my stuff out of my locker and he came up to me and asked if i was okay with what his friend told me. I was still shaken up and just wanted cry at that point, but i held it all in and I told him I was okay with it. I don’t like the thought of him doing that, but i truly kind of am okay with it… it just now i’m freaking out about it because, I love him and don’t what to see him get hurt or addicted to drugs like my brother did. With my brother it was chew, then weed, then drugs, and it got really bad. I don’t want the same thing to happen to my boyfriend. what should i do? Should I talk to him or just let it go? Please help me.

Category: asked January 14, 2014

6 Answers

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Talk to him! And as for this statement here: "I was still shaken up and just wanted cry at that point, but i held it all in and I told him I was okay with it. I don’t like the thought of him doing that, but i truly kind of am okay with it" Do not lie about your feelings. If it bothers you, talk to him about it. And be glad he isn't doing hardcore drugs like meth--see? Bright side :)! Just don't fear him getting into other things, especially if it hasn't happened yet (meaning, it's totally preventable if addressed, or just his personal choice to do nothing else)
I'm glad that you are concerned for his health, and because of that, you should tell him. If he doesn't want to compromise, and you can't deal with what he is doing, I'm sorry to say that you'll have to let go. Okay, good luck! :)
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SilentRain is right you should tell him your not ok with what your heard and your really worried about him. Tell him how it hurt you or what happened to your brother and if he really cares he should try and change.Best of luck
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i agree with silent rain completley and you should not lie to him or try to hide your concern or feelings, the more open you are and honest, the better it will be for both of you
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Honestly, In my opinion, communication is the most important part of any relationship. No matter the age, or circumstances of the two people. It is good to be open and honest about things with your partner but also keep in mind that you don't ever have to settle for less. If you are uncomfortable with him doing these things, you don't have to feel like you need to stay in the relationship, especially if you feel like it is a damper on your happiness. Someone out there could be a lot better suited for you but you're also still really young and a lot of years ahead of you. Who knows how many more experiences in the dating world are to come. But when putting the focus back onto this particular situation, the people above me are right. Just be open about the whole thing. Don't ever pretend to be okay with something you're not okay with either, okay? Don't ever let a boy control you because you are your own person and you are strong :) and you deserve the best :) I hope my little bit of insight helped you in any way :)
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In my opinion, you should talk to him about it and let him know what he is getting into. You should also tell him how you feel about it. If he does not want to stop and it keeps stressing you out, then the best thing ( in my point of view ) is to let him go. All he would do is give you anxiety and break your heart which isn't what you want. I had a boyfriend who smoked weed and all he would talk about is WEED WEED WEED WOW WEED IS GREAT. He pressured me into it which I didn't want and he made me feel like crap about it. You don't deserve to cry about this. Do what you think is the best and if it doesn't work out then just leave him. There are many other guys in the world who will make you happy <3 Stay strong and stay happy. I love you. I hope this helped.
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Thank you every one for all your help, but we sadly decided that we where not meant to be together and broke up. :( thanks again.