I don’t know what to do

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So, I haven’t talked to my best friend since April 27th, but the frienship ended nearly 6 months ago. she wasnt just a best friend though. shes actually transgender and we had been dating for almost 2 years. but it was hard because im not gay. and she wanted to do stuff in public and everything. and i just wasnt comfortable with it; even if she was a guy physically, i still wouldnt have been comfortable. but anyway. we broke up in january. she had gotten expelled for school, and had to go to a psychiatric place in order to get readmitted into school. ok fine. this happened in november. so by the end of december, we werent hanging out at all and barely talking. and i was sad because i missed her. i tried to see her; but she said her mom would call the cops if i drove up to see her (30 min drive). and she either had the program or work every minute of every day. so after we broke up i went into her email because she was ignoring me in school (apparently she wasnt allowed to be by me in school; still dont know if this is true or not) and in that email i found out that she had been hanging out with her friends. that she was barely getting any hours at work. and that she had finished the program in the beginning of january. she also said that i was an attention seeking whore for saying that i was going to kill myself. so i finally confronted her about that. basically our friendship just burst into flames. she said that she was trying to be friends. but then she would go days without texting me; continuing to hang out with the friends that i never even liked. so it ended march 11th. so she asked for her stuff back, including necklaces that she gave as gifts, and i asked for mine. after a while, i just gave her stuff back, trying to be the bigger person. i never got my stuff.
also before school ended, she said that since she wasnt friends with me, she was getting a’s and b’s in school, had no curfew, and was making tons of friends.
needless to say, i saw her grade in religion and it was a 72. i talked to people in our grade, and they said they still didnt like her. and i asked someone if the people she hung out with were good people. and she said they were not and were bad influences.
and of course i was still hurt and angry, while she said she had moved on months ago. i would say that she never loved me; because if she really had she wouldnt have just thrown everything away like that, and moved on that quickly. I never saw her grieve, whereas I cried for at least a month straight. it finally came to the point where she threatened a restraining order on april 27th. i have not talked to her since. but she has made facebook posts about me, and posts about me on her blog just saying how i was horrible, and how she has moved on, and is so happy now.
a few days ago, i finally took down her stuff off my walls and blocked her friends on every site i could think of.
oh and she also went onto my facebook a few weeks ago to delete her friends from my account.
But most recently, I found out that she has a new girlfriend, and she finally called someone else her best friend.
I know that this is biased. But I just need opinions. Do you think she has really moved on? Is she actually happy?
Why did she move on before the friendship even end, and why am I still hanging on? :(
Also, during the last few months of our friendship, she told me to get pregnant, and shoot up dope.
I also wanted to go skiing with her all winter. Then one day she says she has plans with her friends (that I don’t like) to go skiing. And I ask her why we couldn’t go. She said that there hadn’t been any snow on the ground.. There was snow on the ground from December to April.
She ignored me for 3 days, then showed her friends my worried texts that I sent. And they both called me crazy.
Of course I said horrible things as well, but I tried to keep my head clear, and express myself as best as I could. But it was very difficult when my mind knew that this relationship would never go back to how it was, and when my heart kept going back for more.
her blog is madnessatbest.wordpess.com
i just dont know what to do. please help

Category: asked July 25, 2014

5 Answers

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Miss Samantha, that was a bad friendship. There are no two ways to slice it. She recognized that the relationship was toxic so she cut it off, and it is time for you to do the same and move on, because she is not coming back and it would be irresponsible for you to ask her to.

I know it is hard, but she has made her decision and it is time for you to accept that and get on with your life.
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Hey sweetheart, friendships are really special, wonderful things. Sometimes they work out, and sometimes they don't. This is an example of a friendship not working out. She has clearly shown signs that she's moved on and wants nothing to do with you. I read a few pages of her blog and ouch, some of the words about you are pretty harsh. I'm so very sorry that this friendship didn't work out in the way you had hoped. I really am. Friendships bring people together and forge lifelong bonds, but there will always be those friendships that just can't and just won't work. It may be hard, but sweetheart, it may be time to move on. It may be hard, but it's time to leave this chapter of your life behind. Don't stay rooted in the past. Mark the beginning of a new page in your book. Surround yourself with friends who love and support you. Surround yourself with hobbies and activities that you love. Build yourself up again. Fires may devastate forests but the trees know their place and will always grow back again. Plant your seed in the ground, take care of it and watch it flourish back into the big, strong forest it once was.
I sincerely wish you all the best with this new chapter in your book. Good luck and take care!
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You cannot love someone more than they deserved to be and that's what happened in your case,she has been a active backstabber for you since a long time and she took advantage of your vulnerability..I don't think she really cared for your friendship,you must be glad that it ended..So no need to cry,you will definitely find a good friend in the future..
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how do people move on that fast though
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I would say, how would you live your life if you were to not meet her again? Do that. Your ex/ex-friend is in charge of being happy and live hir life, so stop second guessing what is ze feeling or what ze should feel. Be sure to stay away from hir online blogs, feeds or whatever. Don't post hir stuff and private details around the web.