I don’t know if I can get help but

So, my life at home is ridiculous. My mom is so strict and I can’t deal with it. I’m almost twenty and I have a curfew and Ii can’t stay the night anywhere. I’ve been talking to this guy who lives two cities away and we really hit it off. I like him a lot but I know considering the fact he is 33 she’d judge him and disapprove but he’s a great guy. It’s hard to see him when he’s so far and I dont have a car and she’d never let me stay the night. I don’t wanna have to lie and hide it either. I dont wanna let my mom control someone I like but she will not allow this. What do I do?

Category: Dating & Relationships asked January 7, 2015

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MeishaBabyxoxo

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With a response like that, it seems like that maybe she is scared that you are moving on and growing up - something maybe she finds hard to accept. But it's a natural progression of life and is going to happen anyway. i think if you sat down with her and had a chat maybe she might respond more positively than you may think - just hope that she treats you as a responsible adult rather than as a child.

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Alzzy1452

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I think you need to sit down and have a chat with your mom. Tell her that you are an adult in your own right and that to treat you like a child isn't right or fair on you. She should learn to have a bit of trust in you and that you will learn from any mistakes you might make. She can't keep you wrapped in cotton wool the whole time and stop you exploring the world around you and exploring yourself.I think in time she will come to accept that and realise that you shouldn't be so restricted.

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Alzzy1452

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with some people, talking to them never works. im not saying not to sit down and talk with her, but if all else fails, maybe its time you move out. it is "her house, her rules", which is somewhat understandable. if you decide it is time to move out, move into your own place...not in with someone. (from experience) . be miss independent!

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ima_snaaake

I'm just so used to her jumping to conclusions that's why I'm so scared to tell her. Last time I dated someone she didn't approve of I got kicked out.

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MeishaBabyxoxo