We all say a lot of things when we are angry and hurt, sometimes we mean them and sometimes we don't. It's a difficult situation I admit. If I were the one in your position, I think I would put everything, and I do mean everything, into words, and send it to her. Then the decision is in her hands whether to read it or not. Now I know this sounds hokey, but it has a lot of advantages, she won't feel as pressured, she is less likely to get angry at a letter or email, she has time to read it over and to analyse it in her own time and way, and also has time to formulate a response. And then I would leave it in her hands. If she responds, then that is a chance to start building trust again, but if not, then I think you need to respect her decision and look to moving forward with your future with the lessons you have learnt. I know this still isn't in person as you would wish but at least it is something. If you would like to talk further, feel free to message me, but either way, best of luck, TDZ