I can’t stop doubting myself

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Hey! I’m in college at the moment, and basically the person that lives with me does the same course, and last semester I ended up giving him literally all of my answers for the exams, all that he had to do was memorize them and then add to it, so basically, I spent hours doing the work, and he got a better grade than me, because all he had to do was ADD more information than me. He did this for ever single exam, so did a lot of my friends, I had to help them, then they got better grades than me.

So we’re in the 3rd month of this semester, and I’m feeling sort of confident, so the guy I live with asked for help with an essay and I realized that he literally has no information/notes at all for any subject, so when it comes to exams the exact same thing is going to happen, only worse!

Like I spend so much time getting my answers/notes perfect, and he’s just going to take them and pass with a higher grade than me. :(

I just feel so jealous, like I’m doing all the work and no one helps me, but if I say no everyone just complains and says it’s a team effort, but I’m not getting anything out of this apart from doubting myself!!

It’s making me a jealous person and I’m really doubting my work, because no matter how much work I put into something, my mates take it and make it better. :(

Category: Tags: asked April 15, 2013

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I have to agree with goodnitegracie. You most certainly are being used by your friends. If you feel like you can't handle saying "no" right now, then at least hold out until the end of year and seriously consider what you're going to do in the future. I once was the same way. I tried my hardest in school and worked my butt off only to have my friends mooch off me and surpass me on quizzes/exams to the point where I was absolutely frustrated. After contemplating on it for years, I had finally decided to work alone on many of my assignments. Greatest decision of my life. Though I lost a few people I thought were close to me, I didn't lose my true friends. I also noticed an increase in my overall test scores, and I was able to finish the year with flying colors. Don't lose heart. And don't be afraid to say "no" every once in a while. Remember that you're only human. Do according to what you're able, and if you yourself aren't struggling, make someone's day by extending a helping hand every now and then. Hope this helps!