Recently, my mother got herself a boyfriend. First one in my entire life (since she’s been married to my father for all of my life. I’m 18.) Her boyfriend is nice, I suppose. You see, we recently got an apartment, me and her. 3 miles away from her boyfriend’s house. She stays there most of the time, during the night rather than here at the apartment. Every single time she comes home (either before she has to go to work, or just to come home) she just argues with me. Every single time I’m with her we start arguing and I’m nearly positive it’s because of him. She and I did argue before, but not every single time. Arguing about everything. I just don’t know what to do. Her boyfriend’s mentioned to her about me not having a job or a car or how I’m so close with my mother. It’s like he’s wanting me out of the picture. I don’t like him for this, and I’m sure he doesn’t like me either. Even though he doesn’t say it. He just brings out the worst of her towards me.
Granted, I know I should get a job and I will! Just some things are holding me back from doing so right now.
With her and I arguing so much, my depression has gotten a lot worse. I told her that we need to sit down and have a plain thorough discussion about the whole topic and my depression, but every time I say so, she starts even more arguing and shouting and we never have it. She doesn’t want to have it, because she thinks everything is just fine, it’s just me needing to be better.
It’s been really upsetting me; I have no say in anything. I’m 18, I should have a say in something, I would think.
Any ideas on how to go about talking to her about it without arguments? Or should I just ignore it?
