How to stop being afraid that everyone around me is dying?

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About 5 days ago, my boyfriend and I found his stepmom dead in her home. That alone was traumatic, but then 2 days later my uncle passed away. Now, every time something minor happens (for instance, my dad slipped in the shower, or my boyfriend hasn’t called me back) I am convinced that something horrible has happened to them. I have anxiety about these things to the point where my heart has been racing non-stop for the past 5 days and I feel overcome with panic when things aren’t going as expected. Someone, please, help me put things back into perspective. I’m just so scared. I can’t take another loss. Thanks for any advice/help you can offer.

Category: Tags: asked January 2, 2014

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Hello Miss Cody, you did the right thing in reaching out.

You have just had a highly traumatizing year, and you are at great risk for PTSD. You need help. Contact a mental health professional as soon as possible.

Until then, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline if you need to talk with someone. Their number is 1-800-273-8255, and their lines are open 24 hours a day.

Never forget that you matter, and you are not alone.
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I can't tell you how you would get out of this mindset that you have, except to think of it as that - a mindset. You are thinking about things that have happened before and putting them in the future. Have you ever watched a scary movie and then can't sleep afterward because you think something is going to happen? It's essentially the same thing.Because the mind tends to remember bad things better than good, the bad things are always recalled first. You hear something, think something happened to somebody, so your mind panics and recalls your uncle or your boyfriend's stepmom, and it connects to the situation. you just need to encounter it, or physically push it out of your mind. Do what you did to get that scary movie out of your head. I find it helps me to stop and take a deep breath.Eventually. you'll stop immediately recalling the past events, and hopefully they won't bother you anymore.
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It's okay. In 5 days, you are definitely going to feel that way. You probably will for a couple more weeks. You've had a traumatizing week. Try taking a hot shower and focusing on an activity you like. You should probably do something with your friends, like scrap booking or a sleepover. This will help reassure you that everyone is okay because you can watch some of them