How to get the courage to break up with him?

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He’s 19, I’m 34. He’s still in college, and I’m a sales executive with a 7-digit salary. He has gambling debts which I am helping him pay off. I pay for all dates, his gym membership, supplements, cellphone bills, hobbies. I have very little control over his life, but he dominates mine completely. He does not enjoy sex with me, and he has said this to me a few times. I feel that he is only using me for all the stuff he gets from me, but I am secretly hoping that he isn’t.

Despite all these, I am afraid to break up with him. I’m afraid of being alone again. He is my first boyfriend. He gives me so much of his time. He can be sweet when he makes the effort.

I would appreciate words of wisdom from anyone with any experience at all on these matters.

Thanks.

Category: asked September 18, 2014

6 Answers

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This right here is a toxic relationship! He's emotionally and financially abusing and controlling. And why would you want to be in a relationship unhappy instead of alone and perhaps unhappy, but searching for the right guy!? Please don't do this to yourself. Your first love should be YOU or you'll never know love, you'll just know guys like your boyfriend. Know that you're worth more than being abused by some man--you're well off without him. You'll know true happiness when you realize you can want a man, but you don't really need him. He's a parasite to your life. Please get out of the relationship. If you fear for your life, I'm sure there are people who will support you, or even the police if need be. Please, break this thing off. For your health; for your sake.
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Ok, honestly, it really sounds like he is just USING you because of your money. So I guess you should just talk to him about it. But make sure to read his actions and see if he starts making excuses etc. Because if he does then it is 100% using you. So I suggest breaking it off.
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I suggest break up with him ASAP with your standards you should not be afraid of being alone any guy with any sense would be lucky to have you. Then again many guys doesn't have sense :) there are few but it's worth it look for someone that loves you for who you are not what you are and provide just as much as you into the relationship if not more :) best of luck
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Honestly you have to just do it. You can't really plan it out very easily or try to build courage. You just need to just bring it up and out with. Don't worry about waiting for the "best moment" because it'll never happen.
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Honestly you have to just do it. You can't really plan it out very easily or try to build courage. You just need to just bring it up and out with. Don't worry about waiting for the "best moment" because it'll never happen.
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First of all you should never settle for a man who just "Makes an effort" once in a while. He should make an effort to love and support you always. It could be the fact that the age gap is pretty large and that he is not maturely on the same level as you. There are alot of dating sites that you can try or even dont bother looking for a man and then he will find you.Never waste your time on a man who only uses you for money and doesn't feel the need to respect you in any way. That is not a man.. It is a child. You are basically in a relationship with a child who has not fully developed mentally. You need a man to be able to support you and provide for you all that he can.You should just dump him and leave him as far behind as you possibly can.