How should I feel? Or what should I do?

My BFF started dating my ex, who was my first real love, and I still love him a lot. And she’s rubbing him in my face. I can’t get over how he and her were dating behind me back. Now she’ll read out his long love texts, ones like he used to send me. She’s literally waving him around in front of my face. Worst things worse, is before anybody started dating anybody, we were all really close friends. But he was my everything, he wrote me a song, and drew funny/cute cartoon sketches of us. He was funny and gentle. Just plain perfect. And now my BFF,is the one he loves. I want to unmeet him. I can’t get over him no matter how hard I try (8 months) and I’m tired of crying. Also I have a dependency disorder (among many other things) so it makes it harder on me.

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Anna

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feet off the grass! if you don't like what you're feeling and what you see, stay away for awhile. it's better to stay away from both of them. You're bff should have respected you and so is your ex by asking for your permission first. they should have thought about how you will feel instead of rubbing it in your face! SHE knows how much you still care for him, HE knows that she's your bestfriend. If you still wants to be friends with those 2 idiots. Show to them that you're mature enough and wont be affected by their childish schemes . Be the better version of yourself !focus on other things that are rather productive than wasting your time thinking of "what if's" and "what could haves" :)

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icychoco

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You're hurting, and that's perfectly normal for a situation like this. I've witnessed my friends go through the same thing. It's tough. Maybe (if you haven't already) sit your friend down and explain to her that you understand she's happy being with him, but give her a reminder than he IS your ex, which makes it hard on you for her to wave him around like that to you. Don't let their relationship get in the middle of the friendship you have together (which I'm guessing is a great friendship, because you call her your BFF). I hope in the end everything works out for you. Best friends have a strong hold, and losing that hurts. The best of luck to you!

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Hayden

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I don't kno your BFF or your ex, but your BFF is, in a very obvious way, showing off. What she is doing is not very pretty, she is acting like if she is in a competition. If she was a little bit more decent, she would know you are in pain because of your ex and she would stop. Doesn't sound like she feels bad about dating him or torturing you, so I wonder what kind of other things she does to you.

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goatghost

Have you tried talking to her, and telling her how you feel? From what I gather, you can live with them dating (well, there's not a lot else you can do, really .-.), but you don't like her rubbing it in - which is pretty reasonable, really, so she should respect your feelings. There's a chance she doesn't realise you still have feelings for him, but you should definitely talk to her about it

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