Today we were in the middle of finals and well I have this friend, she is the definition of perfection I’m serious she stands up for what she believes in, is beautiful, ambitious, funny, humble, a fast runner (hahah shoutout to all runners) she knows what she wants to be in life, has perfect grades flawless skin, skinny and toned and just naturally knows what she wants to be in life. I don’t even think she’s insecure about anything she was the first one to finish and I couldn’t help but feel so jealous….is that wrong? She’s just so perfect sometimes I wonder why were even friends. I just wish I could half 1/10 her life and I know her life isn’t perfect but she really is and she’s gonna go places too. I just wish, well I wish I could be something too
Sometimes it's way different on the inside as what it appears on the outside, some people may only want to show the BEST side of themselves, and are confident because they know they are good at what they do etc. But little do you know whats going on the inside. You have to realize that everyone has their imperfections some may show more than others, but everyone has beauty in them and you have to own what you have, and I truly believe everyone has great things about themselves, some may find it later than others but once you have a grasp on who you are, etc, you will be more comfortable with who you are. Comparing yourself to others will happen, but hopefully you will soon realize that it isn't going to get you anywhere and that you can only be better than the person you were yesterday. Best of Luck x
No one is perfect, babe. Just because she looks or it seems like she has the perfect life I doubt she does. Don't compare yourself to others because you are unique and it takes a lot to be you- and no one else has the lot. The fact that you can be you is huge. Lots of love ~
Hi. Maybe this can help you not to compare yourself to others. Create a gratitude journal, wherein everyday you should enlist 10 things of you should be grateful about. Whenever you feel insecure or incompetent, read your gratitude journal. Hope this helps. Smile :D
I personally have found that isn't so much about not comparing yourself to others as it is learning to see differences as neither good or bad. Culture tends to create ideas that this is what good looks like and that is what bad looks like, but really it's all just different. You and your friend are different from each other, but neither of you are better. Just because she has a lot of her values and what she wants to do with her life figured out does not mean she is better. Some people figure this out early and some of us need more time. I'm sure that in time you find what you are passionate about and you will go places too!
Im sure you are perfect too - I was shown how to look at this in a different non negative way - lets say you both are looking at a folder standing up on a desk. Just a plain folder, and you two both sit on different sides of the folder so that each of you are looking at one side of the folder - she will probably say " its shiny and looks sorta like rough plastic" and you say " It looks soft and sparkly" , you both have different views. She probably sees herself in a different way and you see yourself differently than how other people see you. Dont worry honey Im sure someone out there sees you as perfection - I like how you talk all positive about your friend too - I was exactly like this , the only thing is that I was giving so much of my positivity to others and not so much to myself. I was more negative torwards myself - But she is her and you are you , no one can be a better you than you :)
It's ok to compare yourself to others, I don't think that's a bad thing, as long as your main goal in life doesn't become "being like this person" or "doing what's needed to be liked by this person". People are the only thing that can mirror us, and by comparing yourself to them, you can find what you want to improve in yourself faster than by looking into mirror. I think it's a very good thing to try to improve yourself, as long as you don't start blaming yourself for every single thing you do.
Everyone has doubts, and the perfect girl probably has some too. She just knows how to hide them, and she might have gotten good at dealing with them too.Now, according to what you just wrote, it seems like you wish you were more secure and sure of what you want in life. It's not always to do it but it's an interesting journey. Don't ask yourself "why am I not sure of what I want?", ask yourself "what do I want?". Sometimes, it's a hard question to answer right away so try to find what you like, what you believe in, what matters to you. See what people are fond of and think about whether it matches your values or not. Watch documentaries and read books by good authors dealing with subjects of all kinds and see which ones made you react the most. Your life path will appear naturally.