How do you get over losing your best friend right before graduation?

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I’ve had a best friend since 5th grade and we’ve had our ups and downs throughout the years. We somehow always managed to survive. However drama happened. I felt like i was being ganged up on by 4 other girls whies shes fruends with who dont like me. I also hurt someone without thinking about it and i felt horrible, and now we aren’t friends and she’s ignoring me Completly. She said she cant hold my hand abd i dont expect her too. She thinks im immature yet shes the one not speaking to me. I tried apologizing 3 times and nothing is working. Ove been trying to stay positve but it just Keeps coming back. We’re graduating from high school in a few weeks and it’s just been making me have anxiety. I haven’t told anyone this. I’ve started doing better but I just can’t get over this. I havent been really eating eighter. I just need some motivation. I also feel pressure for graduation and having to leave teachers I’m really close to behined. I just don’t know how o think anymore.

Category: Tags: asked June 5, 2013

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Graduation is a very intense time. It is a rite of passage, a massive change. First of all let me say, I'm sorry you are going through this and I'm sorry your friendship has been damaged this badly. It is possible it can't be fixed. I know it doesn't seem like it but this too will pass. Did you know, most people don't stay close with their high school friends. We find that as we grow older and change, we grow apart. It is great when you can stay close to a best friend from high school but honestly it is rare. It is likely this friendship wouldn't have withstood the outside worlds of college anyway. You've tried to apologize repeatedly and she is not accepting your apology. At this point, as hard as it is, I'd hold my head up high, grit my teeth and just try to survive and graduate. NOTHING is more important at this point, then this. Do not let this break up with a best friend cause you to not follow through with the most important thing in your life right now, getting good grades, getting a diploma and walking down that aisle with your head held high and a diploma in your hand. It is sad that your friendship is having trouble at this time. She is probably feeling the same stressors you are and its possible you'll be friends again this summer after you are both out of the pressure cooker that is the last few weeks of your senior year. Please, talk to someone, your folks, one of these teachers you like, someone whose opinion matters to you, and tell them what you are going through. You'll be surprised how much better you will feel just getting this off your chest. Then write down your goals for the next two weeks. Put worrying about this relationship on a list for next month. So it will still be there, just not something you are worrying about right now. then focus on what you have to do, need to do, to get through these last two weeks with your diploma. I promise you, if you can do that, you'll feel so much better. Graduation is an amazing feeling. So please, talk to someone, start eating healthy meals and getting a good nights sleep, stop torturing yourself over something that you at this point have no control over, and focus on positive things you can do for yourself that you do have control over. I'm proud of you. You can do this!
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Thank you so much! I feel so much better. I'll get through it. Im pretty much back to normal. I had a really good day today. Im hanging with other people which is good. I guess it's just hard because i've known this person for almost ever and it's just sad that it had to end like this. I tried to be a good person, and in the end the enemy won. I am going to continue to have hope but im not going to beat myself up anymore.
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Yay Britt, I'm so proud of you. I was just going back through old messages and I saw this. I hope you had the most amazing graduation day ever. Please let me know how you are doing, I care and I hope everything turned out for the best.