My husband of 13 years recently left me. He wanted a new life and was no longer in love with me. I would like to be friends with him. I need to forgive him. How do you do that?
A relationship is a partnership. If it is a relationship between friends or a relationship as a marriage; it takes two people working together to make it work. Both people have to express the want, the need, and the desire for the relationship to work.
One cannot simply say that it was all his fault for the relationship not working. If he wanted a new life it does have something to do with him; but it can also speak mountains about what it is you were or were not doing for him in the relationship. Generally there is always equal blame for a relationship not surviving.
But, I'd be willing to bet that if he wanted a new life he probably does not wish to be friends with you. Forgiveness will come with time. Friendship may never come and sometimes the only way to be a friend to someone is to let them come to you when their ready.