How do i tell my mom that im gay and what if she hates me for it?

Being gay is no crime. I understand that some cultures do not accept it, but you cannot hide yourself for long. There is no way you can hide it from your parents. You have to tell them sometime. You could write your mom a letter telling her about everything that is in your mind if you are too afraid to tell her on face. tell your cousin or some family member who would understand you and support you. This news might shake your mom a bit, maybe she would be upset or even angry. But , eventually she will understand. She will need time to accept the news. Give her that time. You are her child and she will be with you. Just make sure you are strong when you disclose the news to your mom, and let her know that you are happy being yourself. Just go and tell her. Good luck. :)

You're the one who knows your mom best, so I understand your reluctance. I suggest preparing for the major options: (1) she accepts, and you're cool; (2) she wants to accept, but it's a rough transition; (3) she wigs out, and you need to find another place to lay your head at night. Your options depend a lot on your age and the support available from other family members and friends. My older daughter came out to me as gay/bi (she wasn't sure at the time) when she was a senior. I accepted it super easily ... so easily in fact, that she assumed I didn't really mean it. Now she is 23 and knows that I love her with my whole damned heart; she's the same little girl-now-young-woman that I've always loved, no matter who she loves. I hope your mom can find that same attitude. I'm glad to talk with you further if you like. I suggest honesty with your family as soon as you're ready for it; my understanding is that it feels great to be openly and authentically yourself, even if new problems arise because of it. Best wishes, hon. Sincerely.