How do I stop being so clingy?

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I know that I’m going to push my girlfriend away eventually if I don’t give her some space but I’ve been overcome by a need to interact with her as much as possible and I’m not sure where these feelings are coming from or how to stop them.

I’ve been in many relationships and have never had this problem before. I’m also experiencing real jealousy for the first time in my life and I don’t know what to do. These are emotions that I’m not used to dealing with but I know that if I don’t get them in check (especially the clinginess), I’m going to do irreparable damage to my relationship.

So why am I feeling this and how can I stop it?

Category: Tags: asked July 4, 2013

2 Answers

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I would say that the jealousy and clinginess is happening in your relationship right now probably because this is your first serious relationship or you care about her a lot. Definitely though she does need the space, if you want a healthy relationship you both need your own lives away from each other you know what I mean? Just let her do her own thing such as hanging out with her own friends and you can always hang out with your group of friends. Of course you can still see each other and go on dates and stuff but limit that to a few times a week. I think that being clingy and jealous stems from a lack of trust, so just know that if you can trust her such as she won't cheat on you and whatnot, then you don't need to feel jealous all the time. I wish you the best. Have a good one.
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I know EXACTLY where you are coming from Mike. I recently posted about the same type of issue. I am the type to give advice to people that I should be taking myself. I tend to read people pretty well,or so I thought until today. My friend has been telling me for days that I am just to clingy and i need to back off, but today for some reason it clicked! Some people don't like others to be around them 24/7, while others won't mind it. I myself am an open minded, very sociable person. As far as the jealousy goes, I don't feel a little jealousy is bad because it shows that you care, but if you are checking her phone or reading her emails that is when it's too much. I am trying to work on myself with the clinginess too. I think it would be a good idea, and I am going to do this for myself as well, to not always have your phone at your hip, or not always check email. It might help me to not call or text or email people that don't always like to be bothered. I hope I have helped you!