How do I reinvent myself after divorce?

I am at a loss, everything I read about talks about pick up new hobby, do something new, blah blah blah after divorce. That would be great and wonderful and I would love to do that but now that I have no husband helping with my 5 and 11 year old there is no time for any new hobbies, social life or anything. My life is work and my family. Also when I was married I explored about every hobby out there – I have run 19 marathons and finished the Ironman, chess, scrapbooking, tennis, golf, meditation, you name it I will like it and want to try it, other languages etc. Now I feel like I have no free time for anything. I did hire a nanny to help afterschool but if I want to go out more it will cost me money that I don’t have. I want to work out – I love it but with kids on your own it is always something, and then if I ever do get any free time it is spent either resting because I am dead tired, working because the job is demanding as ever, cleaning or doing laundry. I want to reinvent myself – I have been working harder than ever to fund my reinvention but that is an uphill battles – I am in finance and many factors that are out of my control are effecting my results.

Category: Family asked March 12, 2014

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Gracermom

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Hey.. how about you reinvent your self but involve the children? Go on walks with them therefore you working out is incorporated in this also. Ask your family for help, no always an easy option but you could always ask, even if its just every now and again for a little time to yourself? Obviously it is going to be slow and steady and you have to have a little think of what you would like to do. Maybe start crafts? Card making etc, this is something the children could join in with and enjoy as well as you having fun. Obviously that isnt for everyone. But there are many things out there which you and the children could enjoy together aswell. Hope this is okay advice.

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dannielle

I think you may be on to something - maybe a entire family project, I am going to put some thought into this idea. thank you

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Gracermom

I personally cannot relate to your situation, but from a home of divorce I can tell you how my mom reinvented herself. The first thing I remember her doing is giving herself a complete makeover. She cut/dyed her hair, got a tan, new wardrobe, and even a tattoo. I honestly think this helped her a lot with her self image. I don't know about your marriage, but my mothers to my father was brutal. Changing from what he wanted her to look like to the person she felt inside made a huge difference in her self esteem. After that, she just started doing things shes always wanted to do. Went to Vegas,zip lining, learned to ride a motorcycle, a cruise, etc you name it. Find something that makes you happy and do it.

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whatthefuck

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