About a year and a half ago, I met somebody while playing an MMORPG. Since then, he has been a father figure and, essentially, an actual father to me (he’s 40, I’m 16). The relationship is not sexual in any way whatsoever (he has a wife), and we fit perfectly together because of his background (having lost a daughter) and mine (having divorced parents). He gives me support, love, and advice. However, we wish to take this a step further an eventually push for adult adoption in a few years. The only thing is, I’ve yet to tell my mother this. Should I, and if so, how do I break it to her without sounding like a complete freak of a teenager with mental and relationship issues? Thanks.
Right now, you need to treat him like a friend. You can't take any steps at all until you have spoken to your mother. Whilst I appreciate your feelings, you haven't the authority to make these kinds of decisions. You need to sit down with your mother and just say basically what you've said here and tell her that you need her support through this difficult time and explain why you think adoption is necessary, whilst obviously taking the cons into account. Then, you must leave the decision up to your mother and go with it. If your mother doesn't allow for the adoption and this effects you emotionally, I would strongly encourage you to seek help from a professional counsellor. Wishing you the best for the future. Good Luck!
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