I recently learned of the concept of conformity, and have realized that it’s an ideal I have opposed for a good portion of my life. Even the definition makes my blood boil a bit…”to do what other people do : to behave in a way that is accepted by most people” I don’t like being like other people. Their ideals and interests do not interest me, so why should I stand for them? This presents two problems however.
Firstly, because I’m so out there, what I wish to do in the future does not have a clearly exposed path. This leaves me stumbling around in uncertainty, unable to give people straight answers on what I wish to do as I get older, and wondering how much effort I’m wasting in my classes (or if I’ve sealed my fate because my efforts aren’t good enough for the stupid big wigs at the colleges)
Second, I have difficulty finding enjoyment and friends. Because I enjoy different things, specifically in this case certain video games that aren’t well known, I can’t find anyone to play with. I don’t completely like being alone, but everyone is playing stuff I don’t enjoy, or I feel that forces play styles that make people drift away from each other. I’ve tried ”conforming”, but every time I do I’m ignored. No one wants to be with me, even if I ask or offer help. I place a large focus on video games, but it’s the same thing in real life.
To sum it up, I like being myself, and I would rather kill myself then change who I am, but I feel like I’m forced conform if I want to do anything substantial, as my previous experiences have taught me…